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DH going away for the night

Nicole-Bris View Member Profile	20/02/2013, 06:13 AM Post #1
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Just wondering if I am being a big sooky la la or whether I have a little bit of a reason to be upset. DH calls me last night about going away interstate on Saturday until Sunday for a friends BBQ and something to do with a football internet league. Other than the expense normally I would have no problem with this but DH has been working interstate for the last month, one of the longest periods his ever been away and this last week I have really been struggling. I have two children one with ADD and one with ODD and he is a very hands on dad and husband so not having any support for the last month is starting to wear me down A LOT. He works interstate but normally for a week or two and then is home for a couple of days. This time he is home for a week but I work Monday - Thursday and with him going away Saturday morning and coming home Sunday most likely hungover I'm feeling that the family and me time probably won't eventuate. I swing between DH has been working really long hours in harsh conditions earning good money so deserves this to what about the kids and I. I know that he would be happy if I did the same thing but I wouldn't spend over $350 on flights going to a BBQ (plus I have no friends to do this with) but not only that I would like us to spend some time together. So am I being a bit silly I mean really its just for one night or can I be a little bit sad.

~Supernova~ View Member Profile	20/02/2013, 06:21 AM Post #2
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My response probably isn't going to be a popular one, but if my DH had been away for a month and I was at the end of the tether with the kids, I'd be pretty pssed off if he did this. Personal time is all well and good, but it sounds like you really need both a break, and some time with your DH. If it were me - I'd be spelling this out to my DH very clearly. So yeah, I'd be upset. EFS This post has been edited by Mareek*: 20/02/2013, 06:22 AM

kpingitquiet View Member Profile	20/02/2013, 06:32 AM Post #3
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I think I'd be pretty annoyed at that. Perhaps he could've planned a "day off" trip for another time when he hadn't already been away so long.

Escapin View Member Profile	20/02/2013, 06:35 AM Post #4
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Yeah, I'd be upset too. Being away so much, maybe he's forgotten a little bit how much work being at home is. And maybe hasn't thought about your feelings either.

rbat View Member Profile	20/02/2013, 06:40 AM Post #5
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Personally I would let him go. He's been away working, not on holiday. However, do explain how you are feeling & perhaps start planning your own overnight escape.

amaza View Member Profile	20/02/2013, 06:52 AM Post #6
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I would probably be a little disappointed and would say as much but wouldn't have an issue with him going. You say he would have been home for a week by then? You have Friday off to spend with him or have your me time? Did I get that wrong? If he's already home, even if he has been working away for a month, I don't see an issue. If I got that wrong then maybe my thoughts would change.

Bel Rowley View Member Profile	20/02/2013, 06:58 AM Post #7
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Yeah I'd be p*ssed. It would be one thing if it was to see family or a long-time they rarely see for a special occasion, but just for a BBQ? And planned at the last minute? Nope, wouldn't be happy.

Banana Pancakes View Member Profile	20/02/2013, 07:03 AM Post #8
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Id be annoyed but I wouldn't stop him. Its only one night in the grand scheme of things. I would however plan on lots of dvd marathons with the kids, all their favourite foods, a trip to the park and then as soon as dh walked in the door I would walk out and go and have a (long) coffee somewhere nice all by myself!

Bacongirl View Member Profile	20/02/2013, 07:05 AM Post #9
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QUOTE (rbat @ 20/02/2013, 07:40 AM) Personally I would let him go. He's been away working, not on holiday. However, do explain how you are feeling & perhaps start planning your own overnight escape. ^^. This. But only if it was for something that he could not do at another time. IE besties 40th, or a wedding, or a sporting event that was planned some time prior (finals etc) I don't think a last minute get together with some internet mates that he has probably never met is acceptable.

wesse View Member Profile	20/02/2013, 07:08 AM Post #10
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It's a poorly timed BBQ away but I wouldnt stop DH from going. As pp said, he has been working, not on holiday. I would plan a weekend out and about with the kids or rally support from friends and family nearby. I would however tell him how hard it has been for you lately with the children. I hope you get through the w/e op!

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