[k-lo]

So we've just started TTC this year - I'm just in my first TWW so very early days.

A few weeks ago an opportunity came up at work for a new job at work; interesting sounding work and a bit of a sideways step but maybe will mean more in the future. So I applied and I have a second interview on Friday.

I'm just feeling stressed about the timing. If I conceive straight away, I'll be off on mat leave within the year and I'd feel awful. I know it could take months (or longer) to conceive, AND I might not even get the job, but I'm just wondering what everyone thinks.

If I get a BFP on this cycle; do you think I should disclose it straight away or withdraw my application? Or just continue on and see what happens???

[KACMum]

I would continue at this point. If you're offered the job after a BFP, you can discuss it with the relevant person then. They may well appreciate your honesty (then again they may not). Don't deny yourself an opportunity when, as you say, it may take many months to conceive.

Having said that though - good luck with your TWW!!!

[duck-o-lah]

If it sounds really interesting I'd go for it! It would be too bad if you didn't even apply and it took you a while to conceive.

I applied for a new job after over a year ttc, suprise suprise I found out I was pg the day I started. They have been very supportive.

As for disclosing the news, I think that's something you can approach at the time.

Good luck on both fronts!

[seaside_shells]

I think the best thing is to continue living your life while TTC, you don't know how long it might take (hopefully not long for your sake!) but I think the whole experience will be less stressful if you don't out your life on hold while trying. Good luck OP!

[libbylu]

After suffering a miscarriage at 7 weeks and learning that one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage, I am against disclosing a pregnancy to ones employer before 12 weeks. As far as I am concerned you are only semi-pregnant before that point and it makes sense to only share the news with your nearest and dearest.
Also, it takes the average fertile couple 7 months to conceive, so I wouldn't use up too much time worrying about it if I were you.

[busy&happy]

A couple of years ago I applied for a job (which I was successful) and had been trying to conceive. Little did I know that I was just pregnant. As I didn't start the position for several weeks this coincided with me more or less finding out I was pregnant. I felt a little guilty but started the job anyway because you don't know what could happen. When I was over 12 weeks I informed my employer. My advice is live your life and worry about the what if's when they happen.

This post has been edited by busy&happy: 19/02/2013, 08:12 PM

[YodaTheWrinkledO...]

I would continue at this point. If you're offered the job after a BFP, you can discuss it with the relevant person then. They may well appreciate your honesty (then again they may not). Don't deny yourself an opportunity when, as you say, it may take many months to conceive.

Having said that though - good luck with your TWW!!!

agree with this. Life happens when it does. Just go with it and see what happens. No need to script your life before it happens.

[katiebear26]

OP i interview a lot of people through my job and i have to say that i would love to knoe if my preferred candidate was in early pregnancy stages when i was appointing her...

BUT -

if you do tell them you run the risk of them choosing someone else. if you are PG, and if the job is in the same company then you would i assume have spent enough time there by the time you were due to be eligible for unpaid mat leave, or paid leave if they offer it. therefore TBH i wouldn't tell them until you normally would - e.g. 12 weeks - then they have to deal with replacing you but at least you know there was no discrimination.

as much as i would like to think everyone would be good and not discriminate, a lot of people still do.

if you know the hiring manager really well and trust them then you can be honest that you are TTC, maybe leave it at that. then it's not a huge shock when it does happen (fingers crossed for you!!) but you feel safe doing so.

[Musk Sticks]

I left my job to move when I married DH.
I was hesitant to find work initially because I would have felt bad if I conceived just after starting the job.
So, I didn't work for the first year of our marriage.
I was lucky enough to find my almost dream job and was fortunate enough to conceive DS after a little more than 2 years of TTC.

So, I would say hope for the best, but don't pass up opportunities because you 'might' be pregnant.

[k-lo]

Thanks everyone for your kind words and advice. Its true, there are just too many 'what ifs' to worry at this point.
My employer has been very good to me, so I'd like to do the right thing by them, but I don't want to run around telling everyone my life plans so soon...