[MissingInAction]

I've got my high school reunion later this year. I'm looking forward to it. I went to the feeder primary school too so many of the people going are people I've known since I was about 5 or 6 years old as we went through the whole school journey together.

In high school, I was bullied a lot for years 8 & 9 but it settled down by year 10. Year 10 & 11 & 12 were somewhat easier as I had found "my group."
I haven't really stayed close to the same "group" that I was close to while at school but have stayed/become very close to people from other groups that I had little to do with while we were at school together and they've become my very best friends.
At school, I was a high achiever (not a super high achiever, but a high achiever nonetheless), involved in various committees and was even a student leader. I had an opinion on most matters Looking back, I think I was more well-liked and respected than I realised at the time but I was still a massive nerd who really didn't have it going on "socially"

I met my partner (now DH) at high school and we are one of several couples from school who are still together.

Anyway, I'm a little all over the place in regards to my emotions about the whole thing. On the one hand, I'm getting very nostalgic (yes, i tear up at the mere mention of my school yard memories, particularly those i went to primary school with too). On the other hand, I have this feeling like MUST. PROVE. I'M. NO. LONGER. THE. .DORK. YOU. PICKED. ON. SO. MUCH. WHO. HAD. A MASSIVE. CRUSH. ON YOU. AND. YOU. SHOT ME DOWN. PUBLICLY. AND. IT BURNED. ME. SO. BAD. IT'S TAINTED. MY IDEAS. ABOUT. MYSELF.

And here I was thinking i was finally fully well adjusted and getting the upper hand on some self estee issues and then here we go, reunion invites in the mail and i'm so all over the place. I am looking forward to it though, will be lovely to see people and see if their dreams have come true or where life has taken them

So anyway, for those of you who are older than me, what was your high school reunion like? Did you have fun? Who did you spend time with there? What were you like in high school? How did you feel about it all?

[LifesGood]

I've been to several high school reunions - 5, 10 and 20 years The 20 year one was a blast, the others were meh.
Recently I skipped the 25 year reunion because I had lost interest, there was too much else going on in my life at the time.

I was a bit nervous and a bit excited about attending, but mostly curious about what it would be like.

My closest half-dozen friends now are my old high school friends, so I tried to avoid spending too much time with them while at the reunion. I chatted with everyone, it was interesting to see what people had done with their lives, and amazing to see how much some had changed physically over the years.

I was in a few groups at school - the 'party group', the 'sporty group', the 'woggy group' - but having said that there were no groups that were ostracised or bullied. All of the groups got along together, the cool gang, the nerds, the wogs, the brainiacs, the party animals - everyone was friendly and accepting. Wierd huh? That's not to say I and others didn't get picked on or bullied from time to time, but it was the exception and usually got stamped out quickly by the other kids.

I hope you go to yours, if nothing else it gives you an opportunity to see what everyone has been up to! If it's crap you can always leave and never see them again

[blue4me]

My 10 year reunion never happened. Nobody could be bothered. There was some Facebook talk about organising one but after a few people replied with not much to say, everyone gave up.

Did not bother me in the slightest. I know it would have been extremely boring just like the year 10 and 12 formals.

I went to an all girls high school and we did not really have particulr groups, certainly no popular vs unpopular.

If I had to categorise myself it would be the the skater/surfer punk metal group but especially towards the end, nobody really cared as so many left in year 10 it was a totally different dynamic.

Most of us are in a private Facebook group and/or are regular facebook friends so know exactly what most are up to that a reunion seems pointless. I doubt we will have any at all if no one could bother with the 10 year

This post has been edited by blue4me: 19/02/2013, 04:08 AM

[Freddie'sMum]

NO.

A thousand times "NO".

I would rather stay at home - watching Parliamentary Question Time - at the same time as using a home-dentistry kit on my own teeth than ever go to any Primary or High School Reunion. Ever.

[lsolaBella]

Went to two 20yr reunions last year and had a ball.

Even the school I left due to feeling excluded and left out to the extent I became seriously depressed and considered suicide.

It was great to see everyone and how they had changed/ where they had ended up. The life paths were very interesting.

I went with open heart/ mind and had a great time. Others who came bearing high school grudges still felt high school b**chiness was rampant. I think you get out if it what you take.

[MissingInAction]

NO.

A thousand times "NO".

I would rather stay at home - watching Parliamentary Question Time - at the same time as using a home-dentistry kit on my own teeth than ever go to any Primary or High School Reunion. Ever.

Such a strong reaction. Dare we ask?

I went with open heart/ mind and had a great time. Others who came bearing high school grudges still felt high school b**chiness was rampant. I think you get out if it what you take.

yeah, i agree. i think this is what it will be like for all of us too. i have a friend who has completely lost it in regards to this reunion and is so wrapped up in other people judging her because she isn't doing what she wanted to be doing by this stage in her life. i think she's just really unhappy with her life choices and where they've taken her and she's a bit ashamed (you may recognise her from my thread about the alcoholic friend who never offers to bring things to gatherings and flirts with my DH)

[lsolaBella]

I think my open heart/mind was also eased by the fact that I live 900kms from where I went to school (different capital city), so it really was distant past for me.

[cinnabubble]

Would not even consider it. The past is the past. I have nothing to prove to those people.

[MissingInAction]

Would not even consider it. The past is the past. I have nothing to prove to those people.

but... don't you want to see your old friends? aren't you a bit curious?

[Hattie]

My 25 year reunion was last year; I didn't go. I am still close friends with two of my school mates, and keep in touch with a couple of others via email and Facebook. I have no interest in seeing anyone else - if I wanted to still be friends with them, I would be.

Oh and to put this in perspective, I had a pretty happy and positive school experience, So it easn't sour grapes that kept me away. Just happy to keep the past in the past.

Cheers,
Julie