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Does anyone regret having a VBAC

LoveMyLife View Member Profile	10/02/2013, 03:45 PM Post #1
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Im just wondering if anyone has ever regretted having a VBAC, and why.

Romeo Void View Member Profile	10/02/2013, 03:59 PM Post #2
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Kind of. I've had incontinence problems since my VBAC, it's been a real eye opener. After my c-sect I had absolutely no changes down below, now even when I do pee it's...different. It's tricky to explain but before I could empty my bladder in a few seconds, little trickle afterwards and I was done. Now I sit and it sort of just dribbles out at it's own pace, no bearing down and getting it out quicker. It's no biggie but in the middle of the night when you want to just do a quick pee then go straight back to bed, by the time you've sat...and sat...and sat you're awake. Poo's are different too. DS was a forceps delivery so that may have played a part too. I guess it's to be expected that things change. At the time it was something I was very keen to have as I had a very clingy 20 month old and I was worried about coping with a new baby and a c-sect as well. Not REALLY sure I'd choose it again.

ms flib View Member Profile	10/02/2013, 04:08 PM Post #3
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I thought it was fantastic having a VBAC. So fantastic that I had to give it another go. Just a comment on the PP - your pelvic floor is weakened by pregnancy too. It's not just the birth. And after each consecutive pregnancy it is weakened a bit more. A quick google - http://www.childbirthconnection.org/articl...=10206#elective All the best

tel2 View Member Profile	10/02/2013, 04:14 PM Post #4
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My best friends sister kind of regrets hers. She had it with no pain relief and had a vacuum extraction,episomy and all others kind of intervention. She told me she suffered like a animal, it was horrible and if she was to have a 3rd, it will be a c section. If she knew in advance what she had to go through to have her little girl she would've defintely gone c section. I'm still so proud of her for doing it and am kind of jelous (I never had a vbac even though I should've with my second...anyway...).

Bek+3 View Member Profile	10/02/2013, 04:32 PM Post #5
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QUOTE (Romeo Void @ 10/02/2013, 03:59 PM) Kind of. I've had incontinence problems since my VBAC, it's been a real eye opener. After my c-sect I had absolutely no changes down below, now even when I do pee it's...different. It's tricky to explain but before I could empty my bladder in a few seconds, little trickle afterwards and I was done. Now I sit and it sort of just dribbles out at it's own pace, no bearing down and getting it out quicker. It's no biggie but in the middle of the night when you want to just do a quick pee then go straight back to bed, by the time you've sat...and sat...and sat you're awake. I had this after my first which was a vaginal delivery. I suffered incontinence for 12 months and the pee trickled as well. There was no damage down below after baby #2 and #3 which were both C/S. I had no incontinence and was peeing normally. It wasn't the pregnancy that did it, it was the birth and pushing hard for a long time because he got stuck. Sorry OP, I haven't had a VBAC but wanted to reply to the PP.

SensibleSis View Member Profile	10/02/2013, 05:17 PM Post #6
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I haven't had a vbac but just wanted to recommend that anyone who is even slightly concerned about their pelvic floor find a women's health physio. They can assess, advise and work out a personalised program to improve pelvic floor function. Don't just put up with it!

Romeo Void View Member Profile	10/02/2013, 05:25 PM Post #7
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QUOTE (ms flib @ 10/02/2013, 04:08 PM) I thought it was fantastic having a VBAC. So fantastic that I had to give it another go. Just a comment on the PP - your pelvic floor is weakened by pregnancy too. It's not just the birth. And after each consecutive pregnancy it is weakened a bit more. A quick google - http://www.childbirthconnection.org/articl...=10206#elective All the best Perhaps, I have read that before. But there was no change during my first pregnancy, not even a tiny bit. But a huge one after my second. I'm not 100% buying the 'it's the PG not the delivery' argument.

Romeo Void View Member Profile	10/02/2013, 05:28 PM Post #8
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I've just seen this that says there does appear to be some connection. http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/04/12/...E83B1C420120412

MrsWidget View Member Profile	10/02/2013, 05:38 PM Post #9
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I loved my VBAC, loved it. And would do it again in a flash. Mine was drug free and I had an episiotomy and a forceps delivery. My pelvic floor and everything else downstairs works fine and my recovery was awesome.

MakeLoveNotBacon View Member Profile	10/02/2013, 05:44 PM Post #10
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How old is your baby RV? I had similar with my 2nd baby but it's been getting heaps better. I think it did take a year, with improvements along the way. Go see someone though if you don't get an improvement. Mine got heaps better when I was strict with the pelvic floor exercises. I do believe it was the pregnancy for me - there was so much pressure towards the end, a sneeze would have me pee my pants.

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