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Pregnant? Should I tell DH?

mrselp View Member Profile	07/02/2013, 10:08 AM Post #1
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AF is 7 days late, I have done two pregnancy tests which are negative. It is very very weird for AF to be late, I think it would have been late by 1-2 days maybe twice over the last 15 years. We are using contraception and with the negative preg tests the likelihood of being pregnant is probably low. We have three children and DH is quite firm that that is it. I am also in the no boat at the moment but after he wanted a vasectomy about a month ago I have said I don't want anything permanent just yet (our youngest is 1 and even though I think no more I just don't want a permanent decision yet). So for the question DH does not know AF is late and I don't know whether I should tell him as I am sure he would be really stressed. Now if I was, he would cope but he might have a heart attack first I had a blood test today for immunisation levels (for Uni) and she added a quantitative pregnancy test to the blood work which I just had done and results should be back tomorrow. I am thinking to just wait to the results come back tomorrow, I don't want to stress him out unnecessarily. So would you let him know or just wait to see what happens tomorrow?

TillyTake2 View Member Profile	07/02/2013, 10:14 AM Post #2
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I'd wait until you know for sure.

TherophosaBlondi View Member Profile	07/02/2013, 10:14 AM Post #3
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There could be any number of reasons why it is late. Personally I would give another week retest by POAS and Dr if necessary and take it from there.

BadCat View Member Profile	07/02/2013, 10:18 AM Post #4
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In your situation I'd wait.

november lily View Member Profile	07/02/2013, 10:19 AM Post #5
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I'd tell, for something that could have such a huge impact on our lives I'd want my husband to know what was going on. Yes, it might cause him stress but you're in it together I think.

PrincessPeach View Member Profile	07/02/2013, 10:22 AM Post #6
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I'd wait until the blood tests come back. Stress can do funny things to your body & AF can be late for so many different reasons - not related to pregnancy.

Jax12 View Member Profile	07/02/2013, 10:23 AM Post #7
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How much is it stressing you out not sharing that information with your DH? I'd use that as a guide. I can't keep anything from DH so if it was me I'd be selfish and make him share the worry with me, but if you're coping okay and really feel it will be (most likely unneccessary) extreme stress, just wait for your results.

Franni View Member Profile	07/02/2013, 10:24 AM Post #8
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I would tell DH but then I tell mine everything.

glowlight View Member Profile	07/02/2013, 10:25 AM Post #9
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Wait a day and then you'll know for sure. Why stress him out unnecessarily over a hypothetical scenario. It's just one day after all, if I had to wait a week I'd tell.

YodaTheWrinkledO... YodaTheWrinkledOne View Member Profile	07/02/2013, 10:25 AM Post #10
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QUOTE (TillyTake2 @ 07/02/2013, 10:14 AM) I'd wait until you know for sure. That's what I would do. But if it makes you feel better to share it with your DH and he would want to know, then tell him.

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