[SusieBlue]

DS will be 3 in 2 weeks. He had been day and night trained for several months. Now I find myself getting frustrated that he still wants me to do everything for him e.g. pull down his pants, help him flush, pull up pants and wash hands. When can I reasonably expect him to do these things by himself? I know he can do most of them (except washing hands, I don't think he can turn on the tap) because he will when noone is around to help (e.g. if I'm changing DD's nappy). However if I'm not there to coach him through the process once he's done his business he will get off the toilet and start running around.

[happening]

I don't know about the kids, but my 43 year old hubby still has issues with some of these skills.

[Jemstar]

I would think it likely that most toilet trained kids of that age could pull down pants but probably need help with the other things. I don't think your boy would be the ony kid still needing assistance for everything though.

[bailee]

My DS is 7 and he has only just started doing it all himself. He does have a disability and needed assistance longer than the average kid, but the point is, he was able to do it for a long time but wouldn't. Once he got a little sister he seemed to hang on to some of the baby things cause he felt a bit displaced with a new little one in the house.

[Relish*]

I would think he could probably do most of those things now if you encourage him. DD can do all that on her own (3 in March). Is nowhere near being night trained though, so way to go on that!

[Manicmum]

I've not been allowed to do anything for DD since she was 2y2m. I am allowed to wipe her bottom if I catch her on the toilet. In public toilets I can if she can reach.

[Lausii]

Dd turned 3 in November. She has been able to do it since 2. She was toilet trained at 2 and a half. But she is way ahead in everything she does. My two boys took until 3 and a half to be fully trained and able to dress themselves. My eldest son come to think of it was closer to 4.

[**Mel**]

DD didn't start training till the latter part of last year. She is now 3years 8months and does everything.

But, for the first month or so of training I was doing the pants up/down, hand wash....

So by a few months after the start of training she was fine with everything

An age thing, then?

Though, you say he is fine when you aren't there to help. DD was a bit like this. Could do it, but would prefer me to do it for her. THat only lasted a few weeks.

[Pooks*potters]

I don't know about the kids, but my 43 year old hubby still has issues with some of these skills.

I just had the same thought, though mine is 29, he is still an old dog resisting new tricks...

OP, if he CAN do it then I would maybe say something like "ew that is gross, don't be yucky and gross, you can't play or eat until you are clean and dressed" and just basically not let him do anything until he has cleaned up etc. Might mean a bit of mess once or twice but he should get the message.

Haven't parented a toddler but I have toilet trained one. Long story. Can't swear my methods are the best though, haha!

[Jemstar]

Sorry to disagree, but I would not be telling him that it is yucky or gross if the OP wants him to do it himself anytime soon!