[Montro]

I'm at my wits end with my neighbour. I won't go into too much detail in case I identify her (she may be a member, who knows.)

There's a lot of animosity between she and me. Basically, she's someone who is used to getting her own way (her dad is the mayor) and she wanted me to make some changes to my property to suit her (removing a tree which is nowhere near her property and some other things. I refused and since then she's become pretty awful.

Her chosen method of intimidation is to drive within 3 feet of me, almost running me down with her car. Earlier today I parked in my driveway and she drove into hers, didn't slow down at all, and, in all hosesty, if I reached out I would have touched her car. If I park on the street and I'm standing near my car, having just got out and she's driving down the road, she'll veer over to me, and I have to get out of the way. She's also done this to my children.

Obviously this only happens when I'm getting in or out of my car and she's driving into or out of her driveway, so it's not an everyday occurance. However, when we are doing just that with out cars, without fail, every time, she will drive super close to me. Most of the time I don't even know she's there until her car whooshes past me. She then gets out of her car, which is by now in the garage, stares/glares at me and puts the garage door down. I could yell at her, but I really don't want her to know that her behaviour scares me. Not sure why, I just don't.

The police tell me I can't do anything unless she actually hits me or my children. I would like to get a solicitor to send her a warning type letter, but don't have spare $$$ for that. She's so arrogant, she'd probably just laugh it off.

This has gone past the point of merely being annoying; her behaviour is dangerous.

Not sure what I can/should do.

Suggestions?

I would also ask that my post not be copied, as I really don't know if she is a member or not.

Thanks

[JECJEC]

Very passive aggressive but you could fall down like she hit you and see what she does - may give her a fright.

[rainycat]

Or maybe film her on your phone.

[Pearson]

as above with a couple of screws in your hand that "fall" under the wheels of her car.... woops

[lucky 2]

Call your local Mayor?

[Fluster]

I had the same experience a while back. I intervened when a teenager on our street was assaulting his girlfriend. DH and I took her back to our house until a friend came and picked her up.

This thug then proceeded to try and run me down when I was jogging. Pretty embarrassingly (for her) his girlfriend decided to stay with him and she'd actually be in the car when he was trying this. He ran a red light one night as we got a green light at a local intersection - he would have t-boned us if we'd kept going. He slows down when he passes our house and stares at us.

We chose to ignore it. He's calmed down a lot over the last year and now we're only subjected to glaring. He's all but given up.

DH is rather disappointed as he was looking forward to a proper confrontation, but thankfully, this thug just proved that most bullies will only attack a) if they get a reaction and b) if they feel secure.

[Stellajoy]

Call your local Mayor?

This, or write to the newspaper and name names, local councils love that.

[KarenBubMachine]

Whack the boot of her car with your hand or your bag (no breakables in it!) as she whisses past you. Not enough to do any damage but just the noise alone will scare the pants off of her.

If she then has the balls to accuse you of damaging her car, you can then front her about driving so close to you all the time.

[KT1978]

Film her doing it. Or get someone else to film it.

Tell her if she does it one more time you will pursue an avo.

She sounds seriously deranged.

[snortle]

Whack the boot of her car with your hand or your bag (no breakables in it!) as she whisses past you. Not enough to do any damage but just the noise alone will scare the pants off of her.

If she then has the balls to accuse you of damaging her car, you can then front her about driving so close to you all the time.

Do this and then fall down. Scare her that she hit you and tell her in your most dramatic voice that if she even so much as sneezes in your direction you will go to the police, media and daddy about her intentionally running you over and trying to kill you.