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Siblings and playdates

Rockabyebaby View Member Profile	27/01/2013, 05:13 PM Post #1
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So, I'm the mother of a singleton which means most of DD's friends have brothers and/or sisters. Often I'll invite one of her friends over or out to an activity and the parents of the friend will either send along one (or two or three) siblings or like today, say, "I'm sure you won't mind taking her brother along too" when we called a friend to go to the cinema. And yes, I do mind. I don't feel like having both, he's not DD's mate, the sister is, and although they're all friends of our family, sometimes I just don't want your extras. Maybe I'm missing something or just not understanding because we have one, but is the onus on me to accept siblings or can I just say "Ah, no thanks just the one" in polite terms?

CheekyCat View Member Profile	27/01/2013, 05:16 PM Post #2
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I have 3 children and I have never sent an extra sibling on a play date! I would also be horrified to have an extra sibling turn up here without pre organising.

KnightsofNi View Member Profile	27/01/2013, 05:16 PM Post #3
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It is very rude of them to ask or assume you will take care of their sibling to. It would be different if the parent was staying to supervise.

Peninsula Girl 7... Peninsula Girl 74 View Member Profile	27/01/2013, 05:19 PM Post #4
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Yes, igree with you... Extra siblings a a big no no when heading out on a trip to the movies.

LookMumNoHands View Member Profile	27/01/2013, 05:20 PM Post #5
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How odd! I'd never send both kids to a play date intended for just the one child. I think you have every right to politely say no .

Escapin View Member Profile	27/01/2013, 05:21 PM Post #6
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Your friends are taking the p*ss. Time to put your foot down and/or get new friends.

bebe12 View Member Profile	27/01/2013, 05:22 PM Post #7
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hi, up till recently only had DD and have never had that situation. We have once looked after a friend of DD's and her brother, but that was on a pupil free day that was organised well in advance and mother asked and paid for kids movie tickets. Very rude if you ring and they push other sibling on you.

tibs View Member Profile	27/01/2013, 05:30 PM Post #8
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They are taking advantage because you only have the one. I have 3 of my own and that has never happened to me, logistics alone it would be too hard. Actually I tell a lie, I did have someone dump a sibling at my son's $30 per head playcentre party and she threw a wobbly right there in front of all the other parents when I woudn't go along with it

Julie3Girls View Member Profile	27/01/2013, 05:50 PM Post #9
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You have rude friends. I have 3 girls and would never dream of dropping off extras

Rockabyebaby View Member Profile	27/01/2013, 05:53 PM Post #10
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QUOTE Time to put your foot down and/or get new friends. Yeah, true dat. Both changes underway disguised as new years resolutions.

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