[erindiv]

It occurred to me a while ago as I was chatting to DBF that I don't really have many, well, any, friends.

We were joking about getting married and who we would invite. He has lots of friends. I have my family. I sat there in silence as I tried to think of just one person not related to me, that I would invite. I couldn't think of any.

I had a few friends at school but not the sort I would hang out with every day. I haven't seen any of them for years, since when I was 16 we moved over an hour away and that was that. I didn't make any new friends after we moved because I didn't attend school (home school). I made acquaintances through work, but never anyone I would consider close enough to invite to my wedding.

I've since moved again and now live even further away from my old town, and all the friends I have here are friends or relatives of DBF.

But, the thing is, it doesn't bother me. I've never 'needed' friends. I have my significant other, I have my children, and at times I have had my pets. I don't have any desire to meet people. I enjoy socialising with DBF's friends and family but have no wish to make any 'new' friends.

Am I weird? Are there other 'loners' out there? I'm happy with it but it surprised me that I couldn't think of one person. I have told DBF that if we ever do get married it will be a lopsided guest list with about 20-30 people on my side and probably 50-70 on his!

[sa5ha]

I'm just like you. Always been a bit shy and happy to do my own thing.

My fiance has a much larger family and friend group than I do, so our upcoming wedding is going to be a bit lopsided for guests, but who cares!

I have around 5 close friends (2 girls, 3 guys) that I talk to and socialise with regularly and that's about it.

[BadCat]

You're not weird.

[soontobegran]

I am not a loner but I do enjoy lone time. I function better when surrounded by people and as long as I can get privacy when I need it I am happy.

I think we are all different and if you are happy with the way things are then that is good, it would only be if you were not content that maybe you could think of changing behaviours.

[belinda1976]

Your not weird at all, if you're happy/content in life that's the main thing.

[Peppery]

I definitely don't find that weird. I am much the same, I just enjoy my own company.

[erindiv]

People always just seem so shocked when I say I don't have friends, same response every time "Why not?"

[FiveAus]

I don't have many friends, and those I do have don't live near me. My best friend lives interstate and we talk on the phone a fair bit and arrange to meet for weekends away every now ad then, but overall, I'm pretty much alone. Just husband and me, and our dogs and cats.
I'm happy as can be with that arrangement.

I have just booked a weekend away for myself and two dogs, I will be exhibiting them a dog shows, and I will spend the whole weekend by myself and I'm so looking forward to it.

[ally4281]

I have friends, but not close friends.
None that I would call up just for a chat, but certainly a few that I would organise a night out to dinner, or a weekend away with.
I don't have much family either.

DP has lots of family, but they live far away. He has lots of friends.
Yesterday for example, we went for a BBQ with his friends, he stayed on with his friends and went to the pub. I went home with DS and we had a lovely afternoon in the pool, and listening to "Australian" songs. I had a great day and wouldn't want it any other way.

Most of my "close" friends that I have had through the years turn out the be backstabbing, two-faced, gossping so and so's. So I like to keep people at a distance.

[Propaganda]

I have friends, and enjoy having them, but I am also the type who prefers to do many things on my own (movies, shopping, other things most would want a friend to tag along to) and also don't really feel the need to put very regular effort into my friendships to maintain them. By that, I mean I am quite content with not talking to someone for 2 or more weeks, and still consider them a close friend. I don't need to make contact with them on a regular basis.