[PurpleWitch]

Do you believe that friendships are unconditional or conditional?

Are you a lousy friend if you get to a point where you go "Nah, can't do this" and opt out or is being a good friend about accepting your friends warts and all, no matter what.

Is there a line?

[*-*]

There is a line. That line differs for many people.

I take warts and all. But get offensive or rude regularly, and good bye.

[Mary Whether]

I think that there is probably a line for everyone.

[mummabear]

There's a line. Definitely a line!

Why let someone treat you poorly? I wouldn't stay in a marriage like that, and wouldn't stay in a friendship either. When it gets too much...it gets too much.

You gotta accept the small stuff, but repeated crap isn't worth fighting for. It is probably why I only have a very tiny number of true friends, and it's easy!

[PurplePaperFrog]

For my very close friends (most of which are from my childhood) it is unconditional. But that's because I know them so well they are unlikely to change personalities and suddenly become people I don't love.

But I'm lucky to have my girls. It gives all of us such confidence and security knowing we'd all be there for each other no matter what.

[Cyaira]

I don't believe anything is ever truly unconditional. If your best friend started sleeping with your husband or you found out that they're a psychopath would you still be friends? There's always a line. To not have a line would be stupidity IMO.

That said, I have only a few really close friends and I would support them during hard times and I know they'd do the same back.

[Apageintime]

I have one freind unconditional, she could do anything and I'd still love her.

Anyone else there's a line, and its different for each person, some it could be posting urban legends on facebook (ie Asylum seekers get more welfare than pensioners) and some would have to do something serious, like run over my cat or something. Where that line is dpends on a range of factors.

[HollyOllyOxenfre...]

Depends on the friend.

Disregarding the obvious big ones of finding out they're a murdered or a rapist or something equally awful, I have about three friends who can pretty much do nothing that would stop our friendship. They are definite warts and all friendships. All other friendships would have a line, but I don't think I'd know where the line was until I got to it

[ms flib]

I lost a close friend when I had PND. Her friendship was conditional ... it was incredibly hurtful.

She just wanted me to be cheery all the time.

[Oriental lily]

I personally don't think unconditional love/friendship exists between adults.


This post has been edited by Oriental lily: 25/01/2013, 06:18 PM