[Montro]

When reading an invitation, do you read the whole thing or stop half way through, thereby only getting half the information?

I'm a widow and last year I met a guy who seemed really great but is, I fear, a liar who takes me for an idiot. We're not together anymore, but he's suggested a reconciliation.

This is the story. He plays footy and his team decided on an interstate end-of-season getaway. The guy planning it all produced the invitations on his PC on A4 sheets of paper, large lettering. First event of the day was a winery tour, with lunch at the winery, then a male pampering/grooming session (massage, facial etc) at an long established, upmarket day spa. Next was a strip club. Strip club involved a private show, i.e. a shower show involving 3 female performers doing God knows what, in the shower.

Now, my ex claims that he didn't know about the strip club because he stopped reading the invitation after getting to the day spa bit. He had the invitation on his bedside table for a good 3 months, and only glanced at it the one time, and then only read some of it, not all of it.

I won't go into the many discussions we had after that, but I saw the invitation and I can't believe that anyone would only read part of an invitation. The strip club isn't really the issue here; it's the lying that bugs me.

Would anyone believe him and give him the benefit of the doubt?

[Riotproof]

No.

[~squiggle~]

I can't think of any possible reason to only read half an invitation, sorry.

[Bluenomi]

No. Is the RSVP info after the strip club bit? Cause it if is, and he rsvped he's busted

[Sunnycat]

It sounds like something stupid my DH would do as he never reads anything properly, but no I don't only read half an invitation.

Even if he didn't read the entire invitation surely others at the club would have spoken about this vile shower show. He would have most likely known about it beforehand regardless.

[baddmammajamma]

No.

Trust your instincts on this one!

[Lyra]

I'm incredibly 'thingy' about not being late/not bringing the wrong thing/not wearing the wrong thing/being at the right location etc etc. So, I read and re-read invitations to make sure I have it all right. To answer your first question: No, I don't read half an invitation. In response to your second question: run, do not pass go, do not collect $200 dollars and be grateful you dodged a bullet

[Peppery]

I probably wouldn't believe him but it would probably depend on how he reacted when you spoke to him about it. With my ex husband it was quite easy to tell when he was lying or 'stretching the truth' (his words)

[ellebelle]

Is this the sticking point? The fact that he goes to strip shows and doesn't tell you? Or are there bigger issues? To me it sounds like someone back pedalling because he has offended you but wants to keep you on side. I would need to know more about timeframes ie. how long you had been going out when this occurred? Was he aware that you would be upset to know he went to it? etc

[strawberrycakes]

He definetley read about the strip club. No one I know would not read the whole invitation.