[SophieBeagle]

What is with people telling me how horrible my life will be when I have my baby?

In the last month I've had people say about 'living up' my child free days until baby arrives, get a lot of sleep because I'll be a walking zombie and telling me how my old 'awesome' life is over.

I am 27 weeks pregnant, I planned this baby. I want this baby and it's way too late for me to change my mind.

Why do people continue to tell me how horrible it will be? I don't want second thoughts now!

I don't know if I've posted in the right section.. maybe this is a vent?

[sarkazm76]

Take it all with a grain of salt and a dash of truth. It's something you can't imagine until you live it. But it's not the end of your life and people neglect to tell you all the things you GAIN

[SophieBeagle]

Exactly Sarkazm76.

I'm not delusional in thinking it's all going to be sunshine and roses but I don't need to hear only negative comments.

[Purelle]

I know I'm probably one that says get as much sleep as you can. Sorry Ive said this though because the women I've been speaking to we're like me, and excited about baby coming soon and nesting way too much. I was exhausted from scrubbing my house all day and planning late into the night what I was going to do next day lolI always say to myself " next time I will relax and watch tv while bubs kicks maltesers off my tummy" I never do though
I don't think these people ( assuming they have the same innocent motives as me ) are trying to talk you out of having a baby, or saying you will regret it at all. Maybe they are just having a giggle at themselves when thy were at the stage of their life you are now. Try not to take it to heart. I'm sure they mean no harm by it

[starfire]

I don't honestly think people mean to scare the living daylights out of people expecting their first baby. But the bottom line is, things DO change once baby comes along and if you are used to having a cruisy lifestyle and doing things in your own time at your own pace, it will be a different reality.

But in saying that, I do understand where you are coming from and it is a bit annoying to hear it 10000 times in a row "Ohhhhh you better be sleeping lots as you won't be sleeping when baby comes" yadda yadda. I even had my relatives tag me in posts and pictures on facebook of horrible baby things that happen (no sleep, baby crying constantly, getting into everything, things destroyed etc) as a 'warning' to let me know what it will be like when I have my baby.

I just laugh it off.

[BeachedAsBro]

Now you're pregnant everyone has an opinion for you. The opinions only get worse.

Enjoy your pregnancy and your baby. You'll love being a mum, trust me.

[Old Grey Mare]

Now you're pregnant everyone has an opinion for you. The opinions only get worse.

Enjoy your pregnancy and your baby. You'll love being a mum, trust me.

Exactly this. Now that mine are semi-independent teenagers I get people telling me "you must be happy about getting your life back"....... I actually think that raising them has been a pretty good life so far and will continue to be so. Some people just think they have to say something...anything to you whether it is worth saying or not. Enjoy your pregnancy and enjoy your baby, your todler, your pre-schooler, school child, teen and adult. It is hard work but the rewards are immeasurable.

[Kalbert]

Hang in there OP.

My first baby is almost 8 months old and everybody gave me nothing but warnings etc.

However, I found it nothing to be like what they said. I get more sleep now than I did when I was pregnant. My life has continued on and yes, it has changed and I have to be more organised. I still have time to shower and put make-up one and see my friend's. I also still get to go out, without baby, and I work without it being a major hassle.

My advice is to surround yourself with supportive people and when people offer to babysit and you trust them, take them up on it. The best thing we did was go to a wedding when our daughter was 4 days old. I left her with my parents for those few hours and it was the best thing we ever did. It dealt with all of the anxiety straight up and although I missed her, we bit the bullet early. Now, our DD has no separation anxiety when she is left with other people, and I don't hesitate to organise babysitters etc.

I didn't find motherhood as hard as everybody said I would. If I could be any more relaxed about it all, I would be dead. But maybe because everyone was warning me so much and being so dramatic, that it hasn't lived up to that so it defied my expectations. I don't know.

Whatever happens, you will love your baby like nothing you have ever felt before. And although the late nights and the fatigue feels like it is so overwhelming you might die, it will pass and it is all so worth it.

Good luck and have fun with it!!

I had people telling me I was starving my unborn baby by "dieting" because I carried so small. It gave me great pleasure to announce that my DD was born at 9 pound 3, so I don't think she would have been that big if I was starving her.

Being a parent somehow gives people permission to say what they like and not use their manners about considering their comments before they make them. I just have a laugh at them now. I take what I like and ignore the rest.

Have fun x x xx

[Mary Whether]

Congratulations on your pregnancy

[Sinister Bonnet]

Life will change,that's a simple fact. Most people are not biologically wired to leave a baby at 4 days old and see it as the best thing they ever did.

Even if you get the non-sleeping version baby, it's not all that hideous and drastic and does end and even while they are not sleeping there are times when you are overwhelmed with love.