[Mishca**]

Hi All,
I guess i am posting to get confirmation that i am not the only person out there who doesn't like being a housewife. I do work from home at least 10hrs plus a week which i think has kept me from going insane.
I would much rather be at work than have to parent my nearly 2 year old. I am pregnant with no. 2. 8 months along now. I just dont know how i am going to cope with two kids...
I feel horrible even typing these things. I love my daughter and could not imagin my life without her. But i just dont feel like a whole person when i am at home. I feel like i'm just a mum and thats not good enough for me.
I was a working woman who loved working and the independance that went with it. Even two years on i still dont think i have found my feet at home.

Has anyone been through a similiar experience?
Am i just expecting too much which is why i am not happy?
Should i just except that this is my life now?

Any input and thoughts would be great.

Thanks

[jaluke]

It does get easier as they get older. Mine are 4 and 5 now but I remember a period where I had a mummy meltdown (you know crying due to lack of sleep, annoying kids, endless chores etc) nearly every day for what felt like a year. I am now finding life is getting a bit easier especially with one at school.

I also find it hard being a housewife/parent. I love my kids but I don't always enjoy being a parent (if that makes sense).

Just remember it does get easier and hang in there.

[mama123]

It took me a GOOD 2 years before I even started to feel a little content with staying home. It was a huge adjustment going from the workforce to being stuck at home. I felt very isolated despite being constantly busy. I think that had a lot to do with my previous line of work.

My first two are 15 months apart. That made things a little more up beat but I quickly fell pregnant with #3 because I was 'bored, home anyway, planning on more eventually so may as well'. It was the 3 under 3 that made me feel somewhat content. Now I am expecting #4 in 5 years and I have finally got to a place where I am comfortable being at home. I guess I am finally 'broken in'.

I do have plans to go back to work once the children are a little older. It was an extremely hard adjustment for me but I finally got there in the end. Some people might not ever get there and that's completely fine. We all have to find our own groove.

Hopefully you'll get there and find yours too!

[mama123]

Oh and 'sucks to be Mum' days (as I call them) can sometimes be common around here too!

[cinnabubble]

But surely if you don't want to be at home you could just get a job.

[Jane Jetson]

But surely if you don't want to be at home you could just get a job.

Yep. I hated being a housewife and ran away back to work. Just because you have children doesn't mean you're stuck as a housewife forever.

[halcyodays]

I like being a parent, but don't like being a housewife at all. I don't like taking care of the house, and the endless mess, and I don't like my major role in life to be a "wife"- which seems to mean looking after husband's needs.
I work outside of home and it keeps me sane. I do seem to end up being responsible for most of the parenting and household running smoothly too, which is unfair, but I do enjoy my life as it is now.

I also found it much easier being at home with 2 kids than with one. I think I had more to fit into the day, the needs of 2 kids to meet which stopped the boredom of looking after the 1 kid and all their quirks all day.

[Guest_Dinah_Harris_*]

Yeah, I feel a similar way. The first year after DD2 was born was hellish in many ways, because DD2 had some health problems and hospitalisation. I found it all pretty overwhelming a lot of the time.
DD2 is now 17 months and it already is so much easier.
Small children are very hard work!
I work from home, in a creative industry, which I love and lets me be sane. Being very creative and arty, I find normal workdays and office jobs very stifling and stressful. So I'm really in a great place now. But if I didn't have work to do from home, I'd be really struggling. It helps me to keep my identity as someone other than Muuuuuu-mmmmmmy!

[2bundles]

But surely if you don't want to be at home you could just get a job.

Other than she is 8mths pregnant!

[laridae]

Why not go back to work then? You don''t have to be a housewife. Daycare isn''t that bad... so you've tried it, you don't like, it, change it?