[ttc_29]

Hi all. Im new here so will give a quick run down first.
Im 29 and my fiancee is 30. We have been ttc for 3 years with no success. I have a retroverted uterus which some drs have said will not affect ttc and some that say it does, so im not to sure on where i stand.
I have a 10 year old daughter from a pervious relationship. I was 17 when i fell pregnant and 18 when i had her. The relationship with her father turned abusive from when i was around 7 months pregnant, but being young, pregnant and feeling stuck i stayed with him cos i didnt know how to escape. I was very close to my mum but didnt tell her what was going on. When my daughter was 18 months old i got the courage to tell him to leave, after another bout of violence he did and then i didnt see him again for a month. He came over to get something that he forgot and as soon as i opened the door the attack started. For just under an hour he punched, threw and kicked me, many kicks to my stomach. I was in hospital for a week and a few weeks later they done an ulrtasound and told me that my insides looked ok and that there shouldnt be any problems falling pregnant. A couple years later in another relationship i feel pregnant but miscarried, this put a lot of stress on the relationship and it eventually ended, he blamed the miscarriage on me and said that if i cant have his kid then he will find someone that can.
Things have improved a lot since then and my new partner of 4 years is the best stepdad and fiancee anyone can find.
But we cant get pregnant. There shouldnt really be anything stopping us from concieving and we're at a loss of what to do. We have tried different positions that apparently help when you have retroverted uterus but still nothing. We dont want to get the dredded fertility tests done as we dont want to hear the news that one of us cant have kids...
my reason for being on here is to hear success stories of ttc, people that have been getting negative results for as long as we have and then gotten pregnant...is there hope for people like us?

average period duration is 4 days, average cycle length is 28 days. my period is usually spot on within a day or two.

This post has been edited by ttc_29: 21/01/2013, 10:57 AM

[raone]

I'm not from this group but thought I would ask. Are you charting? and Bump you for the more experienced girls.

[NSG]

Hi, given how long you have been TTC I would defiitely ask for a referral from your GP to a FS. Doctors are all well and good but they are not specialists. I know it can be scary facing the tests, but the thing is that a lot of problems are treatable. If I had not gone to an FS I would never have found out that I wasn't ovulating..... and now I have options available.

Also are you using OPKs to track ovulation? They are lifesavers and can be bought super cheap on the internet. I find that easier than charting but that may also be an option for you.

You are lucky that you have a relatively stable cycle.
Good luck!

[ttc_29]

I use 'my cycles' app on my phone to chart myself. And we have sex every 2 days generally all the time except for when im on my period.

What are OPKs? sorry im new to this sorta lingo lol

This post has been edited by ttc_29: 21/01/2013, 11:05 AM

[kiwi-girl]

We dont want to get the dredded fertility tests done as we dont want to hear the news that one of us cant have kids...

I am sorry that you are struggling. I have been through the tests and while there is anxiety as to what the results may be, I always think that knowledge is power. If there is anything that is impacting your infertility, by knowing about it, you will then be able to make a more informed assessment of your situation and the way forward. Your both young, so this is a great time to get checked out. Alot of couples struggle with fertility, sometimes it's due to the male, sometimes the female; and sometimes both indivduals bring challenges to the fertility journey.

I would be requesting a referral to a fertility specialist who can do all the neccessary checks/explorations of both of you.

Good luck

This post has been edited by kiwi-girl: 21/01/2013, 11:10 AM

[countrymel]

If you've been charting etc. etc then.....

I'd get the dreaded tests done.

I have a retroverted uterus too and my FS said it wasn't anything to worry about, he apologised for pointing it out as of course I focussed on that - but he had just done so because it was interesting!

Get the tests done, your partner may have some 'swimmer' issues - often that is easily overcome with a better diet and some vitamins.

Without the tests you are still flying blind.

[NSG]

I use 'my cycles' app on my phone to chart myself. And we have sex every 2 days generally all the time except for when im on my period.

What are OPKs? sorry im new to this sorta lingo lol

I am having mental blanks about what it stands for but they are pee on a sticks that you use to track when you are ovulating. For some people you can start getting a faint line up to two days before you so know it is go time! I buy mine from Fertility2Family but there are lots of companies out there..... If you have bd'ing every 2 days you are probably alright, but in the lead up to ovulation I try to bd every day (for at least 3 days beforehand).

Edited to say pee on a stick not exactly correct, you pee in a cup and then stick the OPK in. Hope that makes sense.

This post has been edited by NSG: 21/01/2013, 11:27 AM

[kiwi-girl]

OPK - ovulation predictor kit

[ttc_29]

opk would let me know if im ovulating so that we could rule that out?? that way when i go to the drs i can tell them that the opk said i was ovulating or not ovulating if that is that case??

[njik]

Hi ttc_29!

Firstly I want to say how awful all of that must have been for you. No one deserves such abuse. I hope he got what he deserved in the end. Men like that make me sick... but anyhow...it's great you're now with someone and both want to add to your family together.

Like the others suggest, I would advise getting the tests done. Knowledge certainly is power and you're both relatively young so don't leave it and leave it and then find it might be harder to fix any issues you may have. It is scary to have them done and it is scary to hear bad news but it is a way to being that step closer to having another bub.

Oh, and charting and OPK's are great to really help you understand your body and to figure out whether you are ovulating or not. If you are, you can time BD to maximise your chances and if you're not then there's meds and treatments to help you ovulate.

Good luck with it all