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BubbleBird
post 21/01/2013, 07:51 AM
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Just interested in what others make of this. It's pretty fluffy but just baffels me.
Every time my MIL looks after my DS she does strange things with his clothes. For example, Saturday night we dropped DS there so we could go out. Left a bag which I told here had his PJs in it. When we go to pick him up (asleep) he is wearing old clothes that she has left from her other grand kids. They weren't even PJs. They were a t shirt and uncomfy pair of shorts. Now I have to wash them, have them hang around my house and remember to return them to her.
This isn't a once off. She often puts him in girls clothes that she has there rather than using the spare clothes that I send along with him. I just find it strange. I can't ask her about it, I wouldn't get a straight answer rolleyes.gif
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post 21/01/2013, 07:52 AM
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How old is she? Is there a FIL around? Does she have any medical conditions?

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post 21/01/2013, 07:56 AM
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Maybe she thought she was saving you washing. I know she isn't, but it could be the reason.
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post 21/01/2013, 08:00 AM
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Early dementia........... (of course I'm not a qualified professional)!!
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post 21/01/2013, 08:00 AM
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To have them she must have been saving them for something - maybe she likes the idea of having clothes for him there, so she wants to get some use out of them?
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post 21/01/2013, 08:07 AM
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QUOTE (CallMeAliG @ 21/01/2013, 08:00 AM) *
To have them she must have been saving them for something - maybe she likes the idea of having clothes for him there, so she wants to get some use out of them?


I think this is on the money.
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post 21/01/2013, 08:13 AM
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Does she know about the spare clothes? Do you discuss the pj thing with her e.g. these items are in xx bag and DS needs to sleep in these pyjamas?

Maybe she just doesn't like your taste in clothing?

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post 21/01/2013, 08:18 AM
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My mother does this. It's her "grandparenting stamp" as we like to call it.

I could send my girls there with a full suitcase of clothes and they would come home in something completely diferent that my mother just "had in the cupboard".

I think she does it to feel important. Like she's playing the parent role rather than being handed a child with a list of instructions.

Yes I could argue, but honestly I couldn't be bothered. I use to just change them when I got home and send the clothes back.

These days though its happening less and less, my 2 DDs are vocal enough to know what they want to wear and they usually pick the clothes in their bags anyway and want to wear them.

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post 21/01/2013, 08:19 AM
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Early dementia........... (of course I'm not a qualified professional)!!

I hope not because my mum does this too !!!

I've put it down to:
1. preferring to keep clothes at her house and use them
2. sometimes thinking the clothes I've sent are 'too good' for general playtime (I wouldn't send them if that was the case rolleyes.gif)

It does annoy me, but I just put up with it and don't stress too much about getting them back to her...I usually leave it up to her to find them next time she's at my house (which is every week, so there's plenty of opportunity Tounge1.gif)
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post 21/01/2013, 08:19 AM
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QUOTE (CallMeAliG @ 21/01/2013, 09:00 AM) *
To have them she must have been saving them for something - maybe she likes the idea of having clothes for him there, so she wants to get some use out of them?



This would be my bet also. I think of all the MIL gripes I have seen on EB this is probably the fluffiest one I have seen.
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