[LifesGood]

http://www.smh.com.au/national/time-to-cut...0119-2d00u.html

I'm sure I am guilty of being a helicopter parent sometimes, but it sounds like an epidemic that is producing generations of young people with myriad problems.

I know many parents that pander to fussy eaters, never say no to their children and arrange every last little thing for them including wiping their bottoms for them at 6 y/o.

Are you or do you know someone who is a helicopter parent? WDYT?

[Jaffacakes]

No, I would describe my kids as more "Free Range"

[-*meh*-]

no where close....

in fact the only things i do that would be remote close to helicopter like parenting would be related to my DS1 with ASD... so some meals i still cut up for him, and there are a few types of things that he won't eat...

otherwise let them be free and learn from their mistakes...

winning, losing, bumps, bruises, broken bones and school yard tiffs are all part of life! They need to learn how to cope with all of them!

[MsDemeanor]

No I am the opposite, I think helicopter parenting is OTT and see it commonly in parents of my kids friends who are so involved in their kids lives even at 16, ordering them dinner for them etc.

[Milly Molly Mand...]

I think most parents who are helicopter parents would claim not to be, as they don't think they are even though it is clearly obvious to everyone else.

[Gossipgirl]

No I am not at all in fact sometimes I pretend I am to keep people happy.

My two and a half yr old son is crazy he is fast and very off balance he runs and trips over everything also he likes to jump of things.
He has two scars on his head I have seen so much blood pour out that kid I'm used to it.
At christmas at my husbands family dinner he tripped over his own feet and hit his nose a bit of blood came out not much was not dripping like a tap just a maybe a tear drop of red out one nostril he cried I picked him up said you will be ok and sat him down.
My husbands cousin than starts freaking out he broke his nose and his eyes look bruised (they didn't and he had stopped crying) he had ran off by than and she followed him and made a huge fuss to everyone he should go to emergency I felt guilty sitting in the lounge having a coffee I walked over and picked him up and joined in on the ice pack on the face and started fussing over him to but he wanted to get down he wanted to play again but I couldn't let him
because I had to watch him in case his eyes puffed up.
They didn't puff up he didn't have black eyes his nose was fine but I did feel I had to walk behind him the rest of the night with the other mums to protect him from falling again.

[findingada]

I think "helicopter parent" is a judgement passed by other parents who believe their parenting skills are superior. I have been judged as a helicopter parent by people who think they know how to "fix" my children. Even though they are my family and friends, they have no idea what challenges we face day to day.

[Natttmumm]

I have young kids so not sure you can be to much of a helicopter when they are under school age.

Any opinions on that

[Daisy Goat]

I think "helicopter parent" is a judgement passed by other parents who believe their parenting skills are superior. I have been judged as a helicopter parent by people who think they know how to "fix" my children. Even though they are my family and friends, they have no idea what challenges we face day to day.

yes.

I also believe a large number ( NOT ALL) of "free range" parents use it as an excuse NOT to parent at all. They proudly and condescendingly say "Oh I am free range style parent" implying that they are somehow superior. While they darling little offspring are running around willy nilly destroying things, bullying other children and plain outright having little to no respect for other people or their belongings. The children behave as though they are allowed to do whatever takes their fancy as they have had no limits or restrictions placed on them under the guise of "free ranging".

When really it is just plain outright lazy parenting.

[Foogle]

What is a helicopter parent?

I'll tell you what it is - it's a umbrella term thrown over parents, usually from other parents I might add (and the media as well as a few self-righteous blogger's from around the globe, coupled with random psych's be they 'ologists or 'iatrists), that have no inkling nor insight into any deeper issues that may be happening within an individual child or the family or the extended family dynamic.

I'm sick and tired of hearing the term quite frankly.

You think that parents that railed at the school against the particular class that their children went into at the start of the year and performed like robber's dogs to have it changed is a new phenomena? I could give you a few stories from my 1960s-'70s childhood.

You think that parents that lay out their children's clothes for them each morning is a new phenomena? Let me introduce you to my mother - a mother of the '50s-60s. Yes, You would be pleased to know that both myself and my siblings can choose and dress ourselves now without input. What a surprise (but not really if you listen to the current child-rearing intelligentsia)

Ditto to the cooking, cleaning, catching buses, going swimming, walking home in the dark etc activities.

There have been in the last 20 odd years remarkable breakthroughs and understanding of the development of the human brain and all that encompasses.

I think parents in this day and age, have access to that information re: child development and understand and therefore are more readily equipped to deal with situations that enables them to better parent their individual child.

Every parent that I know of, makes considered and informed decisions about what, who, where their child/ren is/are at any given time. They are not helicoptering, they are making considered decisions.

There will always parents that govern and orchestrate their children's every movement but that's not new to this day and age, it has been happening for centuries and is in the minority.

I wish that social commentators would cease their superior diatribe about child-rearing and how best to free-range your child. It's boring and as I mentioned previously, I'm sick of it.