[Koobie83]

Hi,I seriously think I'm losing it. I'm really not enjoying this pregnancy. I just want it to be over already. I can't handle people congratulating me because I'm not relaxed and enjoying it as most people expect I should be. Don't get me wrong. The only thing I've ever wanted is to be a mother and this baby was planned and I was really ecstatic about it in my first trimester. Then I had as small bleed which resolved thankfully. Ever since I've been an anxious stressed out mess worrying about one thing after the other. First it was watching for more bleeding, then worrying about what I was eating, then making sure I'm gaining enough weight because I don't seem to be getting very big. You would think the movements would make me relax - nope. This has made it worse because I'm watching for movement all day and if I don't feel any I'm ready to hyperventilate.I know this isn't good for the baby and I know she's fine. I just can't seem to listen to anyone when they remind me that everything is ok because my anxiety and fear take over and I can't listen. I suppose I need counseling right? I think I do because im tired of feeling this way. I'm tired of people wanting to talk about the baby all excitedly because I'm not excited. I'm a worried mess.Im so jealous of all you who can enjoy their pregnancies. I thought I would be the same but unfortunately no. I don't think I can do this again.

[Chelli]

Please make an appointment with your GP or talk to your healthcare professional about how you are feeling. Anxiety is awful and it is a good idea to have it addressed now and to put support services in place for both before and after the arrival of your baby.

It is great that you recognize this as an issue for you and that you are able to articulate how you are feeling. I wish you all the very best.

Chelli

[Diana_Barry]

It's possible to get pre-natal depression - a friend of mine did.

I got post natal depression/anxiety, and the anxiety was excruiating - I'm sorry this is happening to you now.

Have you got a good GP? It would be worth seeing what they can suggest to help. My friend got referred to a specific counsellor & support group.

Also, if the first person you see can't help, please try another GP. It took me three tries (over five miserable weeks) before I found someone who could help me.

I hope you get this sorted so you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

[Kay1]

Im so sorry to hear it OP. Definitely see your GP. This is a known issue for some people and there is help available.

[Koobie83]

Pre Natal depression? Wow. That could be me. And while I'm sitting here I can feel movement so I know I'm being irrational. I guess what I've worked out why I'm more stressed is work. I can't do it anymore. I'm not interested in the BS that comes along with it when I'm focused on getting ready for the baby. My boss is really good but if I take time off she expects me to make up extra time for it. I've already exhausted my personal leave for appointments and things so any more time off I take to see a doctor will have to be unpaid.I think I will make an appointment with my GP. She's great bu she only works part time so it's really hard getting an appointment. I've seen other doctors at the clinic and bother one and they just aren't the same. And I'm a little intimidated by my midwife. I feel like I pester her too much with questions. I know that's what she's there for, but I just. Don't want to take her time away from other patients going into labour.
I'll definitely make an appointment with my Gp. I don't want this to develop into PND. I wonder if having a death in the family over Xmas made this worse too? Don't Know.

Thank you for your help and advice .

[Moo point]

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way.

Yes, a recent bereavement will almost certainly be compounding things - I'm so sorry for your loss

Please don't think you are a burden on your midwife - that is what they are there for! If you have phone contact with your midwife then please call her, she won't answer if she's with a labouring woman, don't think you are bothering her. She will want what's best for you, and may be able to refer you to someone. At the very least she should be aware of how you're feeling as she wants to ensure you have the healthiest pregnancy possible.

And I understand the work thing, I don't think I was very productive in my last trimester. Would you consider going on maternity leave a little earlier than planned? That may help. Best of luck.

[mumma_ox]

Please get yourself some help. Don't worry if you feel like what you are telling your care providers seems irrational...you need help and need to tell someone exactly how you feel.

Good luck, please take care of yourself.

[Natttmumm]

I felt like that with my first. Would you consider doing a calm birth course.

Its helped me relax this time and accept pregnancy etc. Please consider its not just labour

[Natttmumm]

I felt like that with my first. Would you consider doing a calm birth course.

Its helped me relax this time and accept pregnancy etc. Please consider its not just labour

[Koobie83]

I would consider anything I think.