Navigation

Welcome Guest
( Log In | Register )


> 

Read articles and tips about birth and labour in our Birth section: www.essentialbaby.com.au/birth

6 Pages V   1 2 3 > »   
Reply to this topicStart new topic

> Terrified of birth process

V
miss_heidi
post 09/01/2013, 02:34 PM
Post #1
**   Posts: 148   Joined: 5-January 12   From: Sydney, Australia  
Member

i know this baby needs to come out at some stage, but as the date nears i am getting more and more terrified by the labour/birth process.

for some reason, i watched "There's one born every minute" a couple of weeks ago and probably shouldnt have... It terrified me. Plus all the stories I read and hear of traumatic birth...

I have tried to find a doula to have someone to talk to about this, or to be there at the birth to support, but that is proving incredibly problematic too.. I have contacted sooooo many, more than 10, and 3 have replied to me, and only one is available and im still waiting for her to call me back sad.gif I dont know why i thought that woudl be an easier process also!

Anyway how did you get through your fears, and were they realised? Did it end up being a easier process than you thought, or worse? I have ordered the birth books (active birth and birth skills) but to be honest im still pretty terrified, so much so im starting to hope that the doctor tells me i need a caesar so I dont have to go through the ongoing trauma (please dont chastise me)... sad.gif
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
miss_heidi
post 09/01/2013, 02:35 PM
Post #2
**   Posts: 148   Joined: 5-January 12   From: Sydney, Australia  
Member
Also I am in GP shared care, so no continuity in my care with midwives (which has really added to this fear i think), and ill be delivering in a delivery suite rather than a comfy room with a bath or home birth....

Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
crankybee
post 09/01/2013, 02:36 PM
Post #3
****   Posts: 3,429   Joined: 16-September 08   From: Sydney  
Advanced Member
Couldn't read and not reply. Birth was a million times easier than I thought it would be - you will be fine. A Doula is good but if you can't get one you will still be fine.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
crankybee
post 09/01/2013, 02:36 PM
Post #4
****   Posts: 3,429   Joined: 16-September 08   From: Sydney  
Advanced Member
Couldn't read and not reply. Birth was a million times easier than I thought it would be - you will be fine. A Doula is good but if you can't get one you will still be fine.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
happynow
post 09/01/2013, 02:41 PM
Post #5
**   Posts: 120   Joined: 20-October 10   From: Lockyer valley qld  
Member
Im sorry i have no advice to give you . I am feeling the same way as you and this is my third pregnancy. For some reason this time round i am really worried about going into labour even though my last two labours were really good . Will you have support people going in with you ?

Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
R2B2
post 09/01/2013, 02:45 PM
Post #6
****   Posts: 1,907   Joined: 28-April 07     
Advanced Member
Just keep in mind that the pain doesn't last forever.

stop watching One born if it freaks you out.

You will get through it. it wont last forever. and the bonus is lovely newborn snuggles at the end.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
Jenflea
post 09/01/2013, 02:46 PM
Post #7
*****   Posts: 6,843   Joined: 15-October 10   From: ACT  
+
Your body was designed for giving birth. It really is a natural thing, MILLIONS of women have done so in the past, and millions will in the future. Some even do it more than once!

Yes it hurts, but it's a pain with a PURPOSE, giving you a tiny, perfect baby.
Pain relief is amazing, I almost cried when I wasn't allowed a second pethidine shot lol, it made me feel so good.
It's natural to be scared shi*less because it's the unknown, but you can DO IT!!

And I'd far rather push a baby out of my vagina then have one cut out of me(I'm a bit squeamish about being cut open lol).
You may also find that the midwife on duty is an amazing woman, who helps you enormously during the birth. Mine was.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
Zeppelina
post 09/01/2013, 02:50 PM
Post #8
***   Posts: 926   Joined: 28-July 10     
Regular Member
For me, it was neither harder nor easier than I expected, as throughout the pregnancy I kept reminding myself that I cannot possibly know what to expect until I am actually experiencing it. This helped me not get too fearful. Another recommendation for calmbirth classes, too. They were amazing, for me.

And also the mantra, "No labour has ever lasted forever!" - the pain will pass, each contraction will pass, and before you know it it'll all be done.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
froglett
post 09/01/2013, 02:50 PM
Post #9
**   Posts: 173   Joined: 14-September 09     
Member
Op there are a couple of things that I'd recommend. The first is for you & your DH to attend a calm birth class. Without a doubt it was the best $ pre delivery we spent. Really really helped us be calm and confident about the birth, and made us closer.
The other thing is to jump into the birth stories forum and read the many wonderful stories from other members. Don't read the traumatic & disappointing forum though - I found that just scared me!
In all honesty birth can be what you make of it. Whilst for me it wasn't text book perfect (ended up emergency CS), I actually loved being in labour. That's not to say it wasn't challenging (it ain't called labour for nothing!), it was, but it was all about bringing our baby into the world wub.gif
Oh, and for me, I found that the whole thing felt like it was in fast forward, seemed to be over in a flash.
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post
noi'mnot
post 09/01/2013, 02:58 PM
Post #10
****   Posts: 2,053   Joined: 30-November 09     
Advanced Member
It's normal to be terrified of birth. It's a big deal, it's scary, it hurts, you've never done it before. You need to remember, though, that the odds are on your side - it won't last too long, it will all go smoothly, you will have a wonderful little baby at the end of all the hard work.

Read positive birth stories. Read them over and over again. Surround yourself with stories of positive birth, learn from the strategies of other women, block out any stories that you hear/read that are negative. Bookmark positive stories and keep on reading them again and again.

Also, get your partner to read some of these positive stories and to do some research for himself on how to best support you through the birth process.

And remember, you can do it! original.gif
Go to the top of the page
 
+Quote Post

6 Pages V   1 2 3 > » 
Fast ReplyReply to this topicStart new topic
1 User(s) are reading this topic (1 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)
0 Members:

 

 

Download now: Essential Kids Activity Finder app

Got bored kids? Quickly find the best activities for kids wherever you are in Australia with the Essential Kids app.

Helping families keep up-to-date

We know you're busy. That's why we've made it easier to connect with us online.

Video: Convos with my 2-year-old

It?s a simple premise: a dad re-enacts the conversations he has with his two year old daughter ? but the daughter is played by a grown man. And the results are very, very funny.

ISOFIX child seats finally approved for Aussie families

At last, a new Standards Australia revision now allows for ISOFIX child restraints.

Warning on NSW mumps outbreak

NSW Health has warned of a current outbreak of mumps across the state, urging members of the public to check their vaccination status.

Shower tragedy shows need for postnatal help

The tragic case of two young boys who died while their mother was only metres away has highlighted the need for ongoing awareness of postnatal depression.

Family cycling: options for carrying kids on bikes

Whether your child is on a special seat on your bike, is sitting in an attached trailer, or is 'helping to pedal' on a half bike, there are lots of options to keep everyone comfortable and safe while cycling as a family.

Why the Mirena IUD wasn?t right for me

For many, the Mirena IUD is a brilliant contraceptive option. For me, however, it was a dreadful mistake ? and I've since learnt I'm not alone.

The babies who sleep in boxes

In 1938, the Finnish government began giving parents-to-be packages to help them care for their babies, supplying them with clothes, nappies, and a box that could be used as the child?s bed. Today, the tradition is still going strong.

The ultrasound you can touch

In parents? ever-increasing search for the perfect memento of their pregnancy comes an ultrasound you can touch.

Losing (then refinding) my 'me'

Somewhere along the journey, someone removed my ?me? identity and replaced it with ?mum?. Here's what I've learnt about finding my 'me' again.

The Kate Winslet double standard

Gossip sites went into meltdown over news of Kate Winslet's pregnancy to her third husband. Amy Gray looks at why people judged her so harshly while so many others go unscathed.

It's time to pay our foster carers properly

Why do the ordinary people who go to extraordinary lengths to help give children a better life often end up out of pocket?

Lisa Curry trying for a baby at 51

Lisa Curry may be 51 years old, but she?s not letting that get in the way of trying for a baby.

Free: 'The First Year' ebook

Check out our new interactive ebook, part of the brand new SMH Shortbooks series, for free!

 
Advertisement
 
Advertisement
 
 
 

Competitions

Win a Safety 1st Custodian Plus car seat and travel pack

You can win a Safety 1st car seat featuring Air Protect side-impact technology and a travel pack, valued at $290.

Win a Cosmopolitan pram from Mountain Buggy

You could win the stylish 4WD Cosmopolitan pram from Mountain Buggy, valued at $799.

Jay Laga'aia 'Ten in the Bed' giveaway

You could win one of 10 copies of the album Ten in the Bed by Jay Laga'aia.

Win a Babyography voucher!

You could win 1 of 4 $50 vouchers to spend at babyography.net.au.

 

It's party time!

Planning the perfect party?

Find everything you need to plan your next kids party. Essential Kids has ideas for kids party themes, free printable invites, cake ideas and tips for party games.

Featured Promotions
 
 
Advertisement
 
 
RSS Lo-Fi Version
Skin by IPB Customize
Time is now: 20/06/2013

 
Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.