[charliebean]

So the baby has kept you up all night, you've then worked from home with 3 kids under your feet all day and done a once over clean before DH gets home from work. On his arrival you head straight out to drop 1 kid back to their house and to do a quick food shop telling DH to organise dinner for themselves.

Get home and kids are still up, way past their bed time however they are fed (baked beans) but not bathed or even remotely ready for bed and over tired. Kitchen is a pig sty.

Can I expect him to know when and how to put his children to bed and clean the kitchen of his dinner mess without actually telling him? (It's the same routine every night)

Cranky or not? And what would you do?

This post has been edited by charliebean: 08/01/2013, 06:38 PM

[kerrie23]

My husband knows the kids routine as well as I do. He would have cooked a full dinner, bathed them and had them in bed, and then done the dishes.

I love my husband, he is awesome, but it seems that he is not typical.

[MakeLoveNotBacon]

Not typical in this house.

How do you mess up a kitchen making baked beans?

[WithSprinkles]

I think it's reasonable. My DH bathes my DD every night at the same time, then will put her to bed after I have breastfed her so he is well aware of (and involved) in the bedtime routine. If I ever go out, he knows exactly what needs to be done re dinner, bath, expressed milk bottle & bed without me having to spell anything out..

ETA: just realised it might've sounded like I was saying your DH was reasonable .. I meant that I think it is reasonable that you should be able to expect him to do the routine without a running checklist!

This post has been edited by VanillaIcecream: 08/01/2013, 06:45 PM

[bikingbubs]

Mine knows DS's routine (DD dosent have one yet!) and he would have him fed/bathed/ in bed with the kitchen clean & dishwasher packed

[~nikki~]

My husband would know when to put them to bed as he is a big part of the night routine however I'd have to give instructions for dinner or prepare something myself earlier :-)

[SplashingRainbow...]

When was the last time he did the dinner bed bath routine ?

I would expect my husband to know, but at the same time I would make sure he knew not just assumed.

For this reason he plays a role in dinner bed bath each night and has a solo turn at least once per month. In the early days he really wasn't as intuitive at things as I was - so while frustrating I couldn't really expect he would do things the same way as me when I did it all, all the time.

By 3 kids I'd bloody hope he could get it sorted.

[rainycat]

Not typical at my house.
My dh is a fantastic dad and great around the house.
It's just the way he is.

[mad madam mim]

Yes, my DH is more than capable of looking after, feeding, and bedding all of his children.

OP I would have headed straight to bed and told DH he was the one who would be dealing with the children for that night.

[Leeloomina]

I would be cranky. But it really depends on what he had been doing. Was he on the computer or spending times with the kids? If the latter I'd be more inclined to let it go.

Fwiw DH can cook and knows the full routine, great at cleaning and does the whole bath/bed routine every night with DS but I find that if I want him to stick to schedule I will have to nag him. And if there are any baked beans in the pantry he would serve them for dinner too..