[Guest_3Keiki_*]

So I have been stewing about this since the 27th, I went to a christmas function in Sydney - very la di dah, with lots of la di dah folks. I had a good time. The next day my friend who invited me called to have a go about still wearing me wedding ring. Apparently as it has been well over a year since DH passed I need to lose the ring and 'move on' and she was wanting to set me up with available men but my wedder was sending the wrong message. I did get asked out at the party. Apparently she made it clear to at least one man I was a widow and I declined. I don't feel ready. I still feel married. I still want to be married, preferably to the wonderful man I married many years ago.... but I am conflicted.
Am I hanging on for the sake of hanging on?
I don't want to date, as a matter of fact after the party it suddenly hit me that there is the vaguest possibility I could have sex again. I had a panic attack at the thought of it. So not ready for any of that nonsense... but the wedder.... when should it go?

[erindiv]

It's up to you and don't let anyone tell you when it 'should' come off.

[nationalvelvet]

When you are ready...and even if that is never, then that is ok. It is your ring, he was your husband. This is your decision.
And sorry to hear of your loss

[SCARFACE CLAW]

Only when you feel ready to, and your friend is out of line pressuring you to take it off and start dating I wouldn't consider a year very long to "get over" your husband dying. Do what feels right, keep the ring on if it gives you some comfort and tell your friend to pull her head in.

[MrsLexiK]

When you are ready. I am sorry your friend is a twit! I know someone who still wears hers, sometime in the last 6 months they have gone onto her other fingers but they are still there. Her husband passed away about 4 years ago and she has dated and been in a relationship with someone but it didn't mean she didn't want the rings still on.

[MummyIHK]

I'm shocked that anyone would feel that they have a right to comment on you wearing a ring that your DH gave you as a token of his love. You wear it for as long as you want to, don't worry for even 1 millisecond what anyone else thinks/says.

[TinyTeddys]

Sounds like your not ready...don't let anyone rush you, do it in your own time when it feels right for you.

[jojonbeanie]

What should go is the interfering by your friend. Tell her to mind her own bees wax and keep your ring on for as long as you like.

[michellew68]

When you are ready and not before!!

There are no rules. Who has the right to make them?

Live your life the way you want. I wore my wedding ring for over a year after my exH left because I didnt want my marriage over.

Why on earth should you move on because someone else says you should? Most counsellors say it takes at least two years to get over a real love.

[CallMeProtart]

It goes whenever you're ready for it to. Whether that's tomorrow, or never, or anything in between, is fine.