[hanz33]

I had a miscarriage in 1st of december, my husband and I decided to try straight after the miscarriage that we would try again as the doctor said it was fine so long as we were emotionally ready. We tried a week after the miscarriage and I can't believe it, I am pregnant again.



I thought I was emotionally ready but I am so fearful of losing this baby. I don't know how I will coup having a second miscarriage.. I'm scared to even sneeze and every little cramp or movement down their I think I am about to have one!

I don't know if I should move, not move, not excerise or excerise since I am a runner. Should I have sex, shouldn't I have sex? etc and I am even worried that I am stressing too much and that could be a casue for a miscarriage as well.

Anybody else have this problem , any tips on dealing with it?

[epl0822]

I'm really sorry for your first loss, and congratulations on your second pregnancy.

I know many people who miscarried, who went onto have very healthy and happy babies. The vast majority of miscarriages occur because something didn't click into place during the complex process of turning a zygote into human. It is absolutely nothing to do with what you did/didn't do etc.

I know this is easier said than done but please don't stress. It is highly improbable that your concerns about the pregnancy will cause you to miscarry, but it is unnecessary and won't change anything. Think of women who do all sorts of things during pregnancy - our mothers came from a generation where doctors advised them to smoke to ease morning sickness! I can think of so many of my friends who did and ate and drank all sorts of stuff before discovering they were pregnant. One of them was in a highly stressful job and survived on several energy drinks a day before finding out she was pregnant almost at the end of her first trimester. Her baby is totally fine.

Carry on with your life as normal and enjoy the exercise you used to do before. I believe the recommendation is to continue exercise as usual, adjust it to your new comfort levels (you might be too tired to jog like you used to) but don't start anything new or over exert yourself.

Please enjoy your pregnancy it is such a special time.

[JuliaD]

After 2 mc, I know exactly how you feel!
It's a really emotional and stressful time, and the innocence of pregnancy is just completely lost.
I just take each day as it comes, and even though I have been dealing with ms etc, I am taking it as a positive sign that everything is ok.
An early ultrasound was also really helpful (early being 8 weeks, heard a strong heartbeat) so see if your doctor will refer you to have one.
I know I have had 2 mc, but the statistics really are on your side - you are just as likely as anyone else to carry a healthy baby to term - I find knowing this is also comforting.
As for things you can/cannot do - well please just know that its likely that nothing you did caused your first mc - it was just not viable, and would never have survived in the real world. I personally completely lose my libido anyway for the 1st trimester (never experienced 2nd - yet) so don't feel like sex anyway. As for exercise - go for it, just maybe back it off a little bit and don't let yourself overheat.

Finally - Congratulations, and good luck!!

[Natttmumm]

After having miscarriages I know how you feel. All I know is that for the ones that stuck I didn't do anything different e.g stress less, be less active etc.
Its easy to say but try not to stress as it doesn't help at all. I kept reminding myself that there's nothing I can do so no point stressing over it. Hang in there and try to think about other things if you can

[KDA]

Sorry for your loss.

I have had 2 miscarriages one after the other, and I didn't do anything different with either pregnancy compared to my first pregnancy which resulted in my daughter. As PP said, majority of them are from something not forming right with bub, my Ob explained that to me after my 2nd one as I feared I was doing something wrong. I'm also currently pregnant again and am also stressing about another miscarriage but just trying to take it as it comes and not stressing over it. If its meant to be it will be.

Congratulations and best of luck with this pregnancy.

[*mylittleprince*]

Easier said than done but try not to worry. I didn't' enjoy my pregnancy until the first scan where I saw everything was safe. I fell pregnant with twins

All the best.

[with the goo goo...]

Take it one day at a time and if you need a paranoia scan here and there, do it.

[Koobie83]

Congratulations!

I've had 2 miscarriages too - both were unplanned and totally unexpected. The second was extremely tough. So with this pregnancy I've hardly gone a day without worrying about something. I wish I could relax and 'enjoy' it as I see most people or how other people assume I should, but it's hard. Especially after I had that bleed early on - that freaked me out big time.

So me telling you not to stress is a bit hypocritcal when I should be saying that to myself more than anyone. All I can say is that you are not alone and many many pregnancies end up in miscarriage. They happen for all sorts of reasons and most of the time it isn't your fault.

If you are worried that your running is risky talk to your doctor. They say that as long as you keep up your exercise that you've been doing already this is fine. But on the flip side you also hear doctors saying that your heart rate and blood pressure is important to keep steady, and when you are exercising you should still be able to hold a conversation with someone.

Good luck and stress less! Worrying about our babies is natural - we're mothers.

[kez71]

Congrats on your new pregnancy!!

Ive had 3 mc's in a row and am currently 26 weeks pregnant with hopefully our first baby. For myself what helped was to accept that I would worry. How can you not after experiencing losses. Even now at 6 months I still dread seeing the toilet paper incase its red. I still worry about moving too much, or pushing too much when doing number 2's, I worry when DH and I do the deed. I worry when i have a cramp. but i accept it as inevitable and i believe it takes off a lot of the stress. Let the worry happen and to be honest, its one less thing to worry about. strange as that may sound.
I hope that helps. Chances are this pregnancy will continue and you'll have a lovely baby soon!

[Mousky]

I'm sorry op, but I never did. I'm 39 weeks after 3 mc in a row and worried about everything. In fact the only time I didn't worry was when I had such bad morning sickness I was told to go to hospital (I didn't as hospital is where I always ended up after mc). I'm now overly paranoid about stillbirth and am so stressed that I'm not showing any signs of labour. My stress has made this pregnancy horrible, so much so that I don't think I'll go back for more.

I really hope you don't stress as much as me. I regret not going to counselling, it might be worth a try if you are.