[nationalvelvet]

I have had this friend since childhood..but today she is not really a good friend..more of an acquaitance. I feel as though she only contacts me when she wants something or some information.

But, when we do meet, it is good to catch up. I don't know if she feels the same way, but I am happy to see her.

She contacted me back in the winter months to let me know that her church had put together an Art Galllery and they were looking for Artists to hold an exhibition. She knew my DH was an artist.
I told her that DH was involved in an Artist group near her church and they would be happy to hold an Art Exhibition.
So, we held it there. Because of the location, not many people turned up but I am sure the Church members got to see a lot of the talented art.

A month later we went to collect the Art. We saw my friend as she works in the Church.
She said that she didn't know much about the day it was suppose to be collected.

She went on to say that she particularly loved one of the artworks that DH had painted and that it would look really good in her house(as they were selling it).
She asked DH if she could borrow it just until the house was sold.
DH being a generous person told her to keep the artwork and consider it as a gift.
I too, was happy with this arrangement.

As she works in the Church office she said that she wasnt really organised to have the paintings collected at the time and could we come back another time.
We already had sent her an email to say that we were on our way to collect them(a week or so)
But apparently she doesnt always check emails.
I know I have sent emails to her and they get over-looked.

DH (being the generous person that he is) told her to keep the paintings. He had submitted about six and they were all for sale..No -one had bought them, but there and then, DH said, "I will donate them to the church and you guys can sell them or keep them or do whatever with them"
I think DH was just tired and didnt want to make the journey back again to collect them. We live an hour away from the Church.

My friend was pretty estatic.

After we left and a few months later, we didnt hear back from her.
I sent her some emails asking if she sold the house and how did everything go.
We saw her house on line(and one of DHs paintings in the room).
It looked spectacular.

I sent her a christmas card but no response.
I send her christmas cards and birthday cards every year and she never sends one back.

But I thought (seeing we had given her the Artwork and all of the paintings) she would at least acknowledge one email! Or even phone to wish us Happy christmas.

Her mum told me a few weeks ago they had found a house. I will take this into consideration - moving and selling the house
but the Art Exhiition was in August??
Surely - some feedback.

Do you think this is rude?

DH's is a talented Artist and does sell his work for a considerable amount.
They have approximately $2000 worth of art work and not a word...

Just to know what they did with it would be a good thing....ie if it was sold and the money used for charity.

This post has been edited by lindenen: 28/12/2012, 12:04 PM

[howdo]

If she never responded before, I don't know that you could expect a response now.

I would say you know it's rude, but I don't think it's unexpected.

[Rachaelxxx]

Yes it isn't nice when people don't respond and I am times find myself wondering over various friendships. Have they just run their course or is the person just really busy and preoccupied. I myself know that when I don't respond to emails and phone calls, it's my way of saying I'm not interested.

From an outsider looking in, it would appear you did a nice thing, but she might feel your friendship has run its course.

[Nora.]

Yes it is rude.

I send her christmas cards and birthday cards every year and she never sends one back.

I never send cards, ever. If people send them to me they won't get one back. My mum had a whinge about it on Christmas day & I said "you should know by now I don't do cards". You don't send a card expecting one back, surely?

[Green Fairy]

To be honest from your posts you seem a pretty high maintenance friend and expect a lot of attention/praise for your efforts. Let it go and stop worrying about it.

[nationalvelvet]

you should know by now I don't do cards". You don't send a card expecting one back, surely?

Yes, you are right, but at least an email to acknowledge my emails regarding the painting and how did the house selling go - as we saw DHs painting in the advertisements. A Happy Christmas never goes astray...just courtesy...
Her Church and her do have $1000's of dh's artwork. It is common courtesy.

This post has been edited by lindenen: 28/12/2012, 01:30 PM

[BetteBoop]

Yes, you are right, but at least an email to acknowledge my emails regarding the painting and how did the house selling go - as we saw DHs painting in the advertisements. A Happy Christmas never goes astray...just courtesy...
Her Church and her do have $1000's of dh's artwork. It is common courtesy.

Yes it is common courtesy. I don't think anyone would dispute that her behaviour is rude.

Oh wait, it's EB. Someone will dispute it

[*Lib*]

You need to stop bothering. You're wasting your energy Write her off as rude and don't allow her to zap anything more from you.

[FoxyRetro*Gal]

Rude considering your husband's generosity.It doesn't take much effort to throw a few sentences together & email a reply.

[rainycat]

Really rude, she is not your friend. I would not want to have anything to do with her.