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Would you let your 12 yo have a sleep over, with boys??

butterflies View Member Profile	26/12/2012, 08:27 PM Post #1
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DD#1 is turning 12 in a few weeks, and she wants to have a party. She usually has her girl friends over for a pool party and a sleep over. But this year she has asked for 3 girls and 4 boys to sleep over. I have met 3 of these boys on different occasions, I know their parents (except for the one boy) they are very polite and well behaved boys. I have straight out said there will be no boys sleeping over, but I thought I would ask around and see what other people's reactions are.

MissM86 View Member Profile	26/12/2012, 08:30 PM Post #2
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No, I wouldn't let the boys sleep over. Perfectly reasonable to make them go home before bedtime. If you do let boys sleep over, I would be ensuring all the parents of the other children are aware that this is a 'co-ed' sleep over so they can choose to pick their daughter (or son) up before bedtime.

jojonbeanie View Member Profile	26/12/2012, 08:31 PM Post #3
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Yes, I would. This post has been edited by jojonbeanie: 26/12/2012, 08:31 PM

liveworkplay View Member Profile	26/12/2012, 08:31 PM Post #4
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!2 I don't know. If I knew the parents and could have them in separate rooms....maybe. In saying that, we have had my friends kids (boy and girl) stay over a few times and all the kids (5 of them) slept in the same jumble of mattresses. DD1 has also had a sleepover at friends house with 3 girls, 4 boys all 8 yrs old.

TillyTake2 View Member Profile	26/12/2012, 08:32 PM Post #5
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No. Not at 12. The boys could come for the pool party part & the girls the sleep over.

Chelli View Member Profile	26/12/2012, 08:33 PM Post #6
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I would and have allowed boys to sleep over at our place. I tend to trust until I have reason not to, and it was completely fine (and platonic . )

bryce's-mummy View Member Profile	26/12/2012, 08:35 PM Post #7
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No, I also wouldn't let the boys sleep over. But I would let them over for a birthday dinner and until a certain time and then they can go home. On the other side of it I wouldn't let DS sleep at a girls house at 12 years of age.

soontobegran View Member Profile	26/12/2012, 08:36 PM Post #8
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Yes but they'd be bedded down in separate areas, not necessarily separate rooms but on different blow up mattress etc. We have had co-ed sleep overs and they have all been children whom we know well and know their parents. I encouraged our kids to have friends of both sexes, at age 12 they will require supervision but the majority of them are only interested in being kids.

Mumma Mash View Member Profile	26/12/2012, 08:40 PM Post #9
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No. I had a sleepover at a cousins house and she had a detached room with her own access - so she invited her boyfriend over for the night... I ended up on the floor blocking my ears. To be fair I was very naive and she denied sleeping with him but there was definitely action at age 12.

Holidayromp View Member Profile	26/12/2012, 08:41 PM Post #10
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Knowing what 12yo can and do get up to I would not be allowing any boys to part of the sleepover. They can come to the pool party but go home close to bedtime or something.

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