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Wanting presents that are not age appropriate

The 7 Dwarfs View Member Profile	20/12/2012, 04:32 PM Post #1
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Excluding presents that are not age appropriate because there is a safety issue, if your child really wanted something for Christmas that wasn't really for their age, would you have an issue buying it for them? Would it make a difference if the toy in question was for a much older age group or a much younger age group?

ILBB View Member Profile	20/12/2012, 04:36 PM Post #2
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DD wants an item that we know she wont really be that "into" so we are getting her the item (DS) and something else that we know she will like as well. We are getting it for her as her Brother is getting one and I am sure at some point in the future she will play with it. We are suckers and want an easy life! Edited to add - she will look after it - that is not the problem - she is just not that into computer type games - but because her Brother wants one - she does too! This post has been edited by ILBB: 20/12/2012, 04:37 PM

CupOfCoffee View Member Profile	20/12/2012, 04:42 PM Post #3
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It would really depend. If my 3 year old wanted hitman absolution for the PS3, I would say no... If my 3 year old wanted a lego set for 6 year olds, I would buy it. If my 14 year old wanted beer, I would say no. If my 14 year old wanted a teddy, I would say yes. If my 14 year old wanted hitman absolution (MA15+) I would say yes

namie View Member Profile	20/12/2012, 04:43 PM Post #4
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If it was something for a younger age group than the child requesting I wouldn't have a problem with it, but I don't like to go too many years older. DS1 (3yrs) is desperate for Lego but he's just not quite ready and with DS2 (21 months) following him everywhere, I'm not prepared to get any yet. I've shown him the age ranges on the boxes and pointed out that he's only 3 but the boxes say 5 - 7 (or whatever) and he's fine with that for now. Actually, he's noticing age ranges on everything now, even to the extent of saying 'Mum, when I'm 12 I can have that enormous Lego!' and 'Maybe when I'm 26 I can drive a car' (that was a bit random, no idea where that came from, lol!). He knows that Duplo is for his age and we make sure we get lots of play time out of that.

JustBeige View Member Profile	20/12/2012, 04:48 PM Post #5
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QUOTE (The 7 Dwarfs @ 20/12/2012, 05:32 PM) Excluding presents that are not age appropriate because there is a safety issue, if your child really wanted something for Christmas that wasn't really for their age, would you have an issue buying it for them? Would it make a difference if the toy in question was for a much older age group or a much younger age group? Depending on the object they wouldnt get it and I would just either say no (now that they are older) or tell them that Santa wont bring it because Santa knows that mummy has already said no (when they were younger). In both instances I would tell them that its not appropriate for them because they were not adults or older. If if was a couple of years out, I would promise at a certain age that we would talk about it again. ie: DS desperately wants a TV in his room. We dont like TVs in kids rooms but have told him when he is 13 we will have another conversation about it. He stopped nagging me when I told him that if he keeps mentioning it, it wont happen at all. If you are talking about getting a teen a pillow pet (for example) then I wouldnt care and would probably roll my eyes at them, but I would get it for them. It really does depend on the object of their desire.

countrymel View Member Profile	20/12/2012, 04:51 PM Post #6
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My Grandmother gave me a proper hand held electric mixer for my 6th Birthday because I liked cooking. We were a safety conscious home but I was allowed to use that mixer whenever I wanted to - because it was mine! I never hurt myself, and I took it with me when I left home. I really appreciated my interest being taken 'seriously' by her. A little kiddy mixing bowl set would have been patronising!

lsolaBella View Member Profile	20/12/2012, 04:54 PM Post #7
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For something like Lego the ages are a guide only. My 5yo happily builds the 12+ aged Lego stuff by himself.

lsolaBella View Member Profile	20/12/2012, 04:54 PM Post #8
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DP. This post has been edited by lsolaBella: 20/12/2012, 05:02 PM

LookMumNoHands View Member Profile	20/12/2012, 04:57 PM Post #9
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6 yo DS is getting a Lego set for Christmas that is recommended for 16yo +. I have no problem with that, and he'll probably have it completed in time for plum pudding . He's also getting a PS3 game that is rated 8+, but not because of violence, because of the difficulty level. He'll also be fine with that present. 5yo DS I wouldn't, because he's totally different, and would struggle with presents not age appropriate.

lilybet View Member Profile	20/12/2012, 04:59 PM Post #10
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Reminds me of when my 6 yr old dd won 1st prize in a kids colouring competition. She was given "Dawn", a biography of Dawn Frazer. A bit risque for a 6 yr old - I dumped it. The woman who decided the prizes was a 75 yr old Nun

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