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Moving schools in term 2 of FYOS, Is it a horrible thing to do to my child?
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20/12/2012, 11:22 AM
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We are currently in Sydney. DD has just finished FYOS and DS is due to start next year. DH has been offered a job in Melbourne. It's a great opportunity for him and it comes with a nice payrise so that will help set us up financially. Taking the job is the right thing to do for our family. But I worry about DD and DS changing schools. DS is so excited about starting school and because he is so familiar with the school from doing drop off and pick up all this year, he feels very comfortable. DD loves her school and has made lots of friends. She is signed up for violin and netball for next year and she can't wait to start them. If we move we really can't go until term 2 next year. DH's company is acquiring the firm and has to go through the due diligence process. If the purchase falls through then there will be no job for him, so we cannot make the move earlier. The chances are DH will need to start about half way through term 1 and our plan is for him to commute while kids and I stay in Sydney the end of term. Because the school holidays don't coincide the kids will start in week 3 of term 2 at their new school. When I think of telling the kids about the move I feel sick. I'm not as worried about DD, she is a very resilient child. She will be upset but she'll cope. But poor DS, starting 2 new schools in 2 terms Has anyone done anything similar? Are we horrible to even contemplate it?
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20/12/2012, 11:53 AM
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Sounds tough!
For *my* kids, I'd tell them about the possibility of moving, my kids deal much better with lots of warning of possibilities, and I keep them updated with what's happening etc. DH is in the RAAF so we've had a few moves, and they know that moves are always a possibility. We are moving again probably at the end of next year, they know it's a possible rather than an absolute but at least the idea is in their mind IYKWIM. (They are 6, 7 and 9).
Moving during FYOS is something I always wanted to avoid and fortunately have managed to avoid it, but kids are very resilient, they surprise me all the time with the way they deal with changes in situations and locations and with disappointments. I think be there for them to talk (once you have told them) as much as you can, answer questions as best you can, be honest if you don't know something.
Another thing we do is put together a small photo book for each child, containing photos of the house, garden, school, friends, teachers, playgrounds they like, pretty much whatever they want to remember, and they keep these in their rooms and can look at them anytime. This works particularly for my middle child as surprisingly, he copes the least well with big changes.
Good luck!!!
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20/12/2012, 12:05 PM
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Thanks for the advice, much appreciated! Hearing about grade changes has made me panic a little. DD will turn 7 in July and she will be in Year 1 next year DS will turn 5 this month and he is going into FYOS. So we're in line with the Victorian system aren't we?
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20/12/2012, 12:35 PM
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QUOTE The younger they are the more resilient they are to change. I have read that this isn't necessarily true in relation to moving house at least. I read this article in the Age today- http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/shifting...1218-2bl3x.htmlThe article may be reassuring as the poorer outcomes were with repeated changes of residence and not one move. This one seems to relate too- http://www.theage.com.au/lifestyle/life/bl...0116-1q3g9.htmlI think you've got to do what you've got to do, the teachers will help at both ends, there will probably be some fall out for both children. My dd has certainly been unsettled with each move we have made (3 to date and she is 8). I think it gets easier for her as she matures. All the best.
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20/12/2012, 12:44 PM
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I went to three primary schools as a kid. First time we moved cities when I was half way through year 1 and then moved country (only nz to australia) for the start of year 4. I was fine both times. It was harder on my brother the second time as he was in year 6 so only had the year to build friendships before highschool but overall he was fine.
Don't stress too much!
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