[mgb]

I am speechless! My bestie at work had a baby in mid October. I gave him a gift and said to let me know a good time to visit the baby, when he and his wife were ready. Weeks, months go by, whenever I mention it, thinking its polite to visit earlyish, he seems uncomfortable or changes the subject etc. so I just let it go. Today he said to let him know when I'm back from my Xmas holidays in Jan, as I could visit the baby as all the inoculations would be done etc and he'd be out of the danger zone. Ummm, wtf?? I have visited friends micro premmies in hospital and held them with no dramas at all. Is this what parenting has come to???

This post has been edited by mgb: 19/12/2012, 05:29 PM

[tibs]

I had a baby in September and just had a letter from the health department warning about the risk - NSW at least not only has a whooping cough epidemic but measles too.

[amoral lemur]

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[HerringToMarmala...]

Sounds pretty reasonable to me. Maybe they had a scare and felt it was ruder to ask about your current vaccinations.

[DarylDixonismyhe...]

Umm, you asked when was a good time with them to visit, when THEY were ready, he tells you when and you're b**ching about it?

The problem is not theirs OP.

[~buzz~]

I understand where you are coming from and wouldn't be happy having to wait that long to meet a friends baby but it is there choice if they don't want anyone around the baby until he's had all his vaccinations.

I think you just need to accept it and visit whenever they are ready

[AllegraM]

Their baby, their call I'm afraid. I would not say anything but just be excited and delighted for them when you first do get to see bub.

Maybe they are just being extra-cautious. Maybe they are struggling and need to give a reason for why they aren't seeing people.

[Starletta]

Don't make it about yourself.

Just accept the invitation and get over it.

Yes, some parents are quite paranoid for various reasons.

[♥~Bodhichitta~♥]

Sounds pretty reasonable to me. Maybe they had a scare and felt it was ruder to ask about your current vaccinations.

This is my thoughts too. It's unusual, but I would accept their decision, and visit when they are ready.

[runnybabbit]

OP are you up to date with your boosters (including Pertussis)? If you are, let your friend know. If not, they have every right to say no, however many micro premmies you have held and have been healthy thereafter.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but you don't know if they've had a health scare, etc. Or it could be that they're wanting grandparents to be vaccinated and it would seem hypocritical to let unvaccinated non-family get close. There are many reasons. As PP said, maybe they are struggling and just don't want visitors, especially in the silly season.

It's probably not personal, don't make it so.