[NotBitzerMaloney]

Went to a party. Lets not focus on the cost of the babysitter <sigh>
Saw a uni friend I haven't seen in about 12 years. He didnt recognise me at first due to the weight I have gained. How depressing, but I digress....
I am friends wih his wife on FB.
He introduces me to a woman, with whom he is clearly intimately involved. For the first little while I thought that he and wife must have split up. Towards the end it became clear that may not have been the case.
So, WDYT I should have done / said, if anything?!?

[Bathsheba52]

Drop him in it. Deserves it for not recognising you. Message his wife with something innocent... "I saw [guy] at [party] tonight with [name her], having a really good time." Sit back and watch.

PS I'm no expert and you'll probably receive much better advice from others.

[pinkcupcakes]

wow, awkward is right! ummmmmm i guess if it was me i'd arrange to meet up with her irl... omg that would be so hard to do though! did you get any hard evidence, photo etc of them? so he cant deny it...

[Kwyjibo]

Maybe they have an arrangement?

Sounds too public for a mistress....

[catalyst]

I wouldn't say anything.. You have no idea of the full story.

[Lucretia Borgia]

Awkward indeed! I remember a movie scene (can't for the life of me remember the movie) where this very thing happened! so, woman at a party, bumps into a male acquaintance with a woman apparently not his wife....other woman says:

"How's your lovely wife Mary? Haven't seen her for a while. I must give her a call and ask if there's any new faces in her life"

I always thought if this ever happened to me I would say this! But I wouldn't have the guts!

(She may or may not have been called Mary...I can't remember anything else about the movie but that scene!)

[His Boy Elroy]

Perhaps make contact with the wife and see if they're separated? Just ask..."so how's *husband*?"

If she doesn't mention any separation or anything, drop him in it.

It may be totally innocent (separated, open marriage etc), but if it's not, the wife would want to know (well, I would).

[JustBeige]

I would tell her. I would try and tell her face to face (somewhere public). If she knows, she knows. If not then she has a right to know.

Do you have photos or anything?

This post has been edited by JustBeige: 09/12/2012, 06:58 AM

[jessie123]

I think I would leave it. Given they were in public it seems odd and I would presume that if she doesn't know she is going to find out about it pretty soon.

[countrymel]

What kind of 'friend' is she on facebook?

A 'friend' or a 'person I met once and is now part of my pantheon of friends' friends?


I'm suspecting if you haven't seen uni friend in 12 years that maybe you are not that close??

In which case - leave it alone. You are only pondering doing something more for the pure curiosity value.

Curiosity is NOT enough reason to meddle in someone else's life.