[Suz01]

Hi, are the mums from Nov DIG coming into this area now? The old thread 14 is closed now.

Suz

[tanglez]

Well I'll come over Wow my little boy is three weeks old and has gone from settled and gorgeous with wonderful feeding and sleeping routines to sleeping for an hour or less at a time very infrequently and screaming the rest of the time. As a result I have gone from calm, patient and happy new mum to losing my sh** at a complete heart broken loss of what to do new mum Praying this passes eventually so we can both start enjoying life and each other again. Hoping everyone else is having a much easier time xox

[Suz01]

Omg, mine is only 8 days old and same. I cannot get enough milk up to him, he is feeding every hour or so rather than the 4 hour blocks we got into last week. And on top of that, I feel like I've lost my daughter. I'm a mean and highly strung mum to a beautiful little girl. She's now taking a back seat, I feel gutted as I'm not able to do ANYTHING but yell 'dont touch him' 'dont touch that' put that down'. Far out I'm so angry at myself.

What have we done...

[T.J.]

Hey guys,

Thanks Suz, I was wondering the same thing about moving in here.

hugs to you and Tanglez. Henry is pretty easy. As long as he is on you. I this heat though it would be nice to have some time to myself. Hubby last night wanted to watch the new Batman movie, so told me to leave Henry out with him while I got an early night. Half an hour later he had to bring him into me as he was cracking it. Literally as soon as he gave him to me he stopped crying!! And I am not even breast feeding, so thought at least hubby could do some night feeds on his days off. But nope.

The expressing is going ok. Still only getting the same amount which is annoying. Sme days less. I keep wondering whether I am just going to dry up. I am going to get him weighed again tomorrow so will let you guys know how we go

[tanglez]

Well I like our new home here in the parents lounge TJ I'm glad that you are having a cruisey time even if your cuddles are the only winning ones lol! I can only remind myself that most babies cry some more than others and that it should peak at six weeks and then get better! I have found the period of purple crying website to be really helpful in coming to terms with the helplessness I feel at times.
Suz, be kind to yourself, it must be really tough, I know I have my moments with only one lol! You will find your groove and kids are remarkably forgiving and adaptable so do what you can and know that you are doing your absolute best ok!
My boy is sleeping and I know I should be too but I'm never sure if it's just going to be a catnap and to be honest I actually hate being woken up after just twenty minutes more than sleep deprivation. He is looking peaceful though so might go take my chmaces and hoe this is a long sleep!
Good luck all

[T.J.]

Tanglez ~ hugs. It does get easier when they are older. They don't stay babies for long. Although it probably doesn't feel like that when you are sleep deprived. I had a read of the purple crying website. It sounds very confusing tbh. I suppose just do what comes naturally to yourself as a parent. There is no right way or wrong way.

Well, I got Henry weighed today. He has put on 470grams this week. He is 3 weeks 4 days old and has put on just over a kilo since birth and has grown 4cm. The nurse was pretty happy with that. It made me feel better about the express/formula feeding I am doing. She said she was impressed with how I am going expressing, especially with having my other boys as well. It is very time consuming, but obviously is all working well. I seem to get a lot of cream out when expressing. Leave it in the fridge for an hour and there is a nice layer on top.

Ok, I had better go. I just have Henry home with me today, so the house is super quiet. I had better enjoy it while it lasts, hehe.

[lozzylots]

Oh, I found you guys
Thought it was just my computer being funny in the old DIG thread...

Suz & Tanglez, I know how you feel. It's poor DH that is copping my moods at the moment though, and he's as sleep deprived as I am. And we probably don't even have the right to complain coz she's actually really good compared to a lot of newborns. But it seemed we'd gotten into this great routine, she was feeding and sleeping brilliantly then this week bam, she's fussy during the day and sleeps restlessly on and off, and is spitting her milk out while she's feeding (I'm bottle feeding EBM full time too TJ) - we're experimenting with different bottles and teats, I tried a little formula to see if it was my milk upsetting her but nothing seems to make a difference. But nothing else is wrong, no temp, gaining weight... They are spectacular little enigmas huh?? Today she's slept great but not wanting much milk, but at the same time she's laying awake in her rocker quite happily. I just can't work this kid out

TJ, it's kinda touch and go with the expressing isn't it? I had a bad day where I thought my milk was on its way out then suddenly it was ok again. I keep wondering how long I'll be able to keep it up. It's hard work but I want to go as long as I possibly can, it makes me feel better about not breastfeeding (man, the midwives at my hospital really messed with my head about all this, it's taking some time to get over). I have mixed feelings about going to full time formula, but ultimately if it has to happen, it has to happen. No point beating myself up over it, I've seen 2 lactation consultants and have been full time expressing for 4 weeks now - I think I've done all I can.

Hope some more mums join us, but yep, it's nice to be in this group now

[emnut]

hi guys - I'll join you all here when I'm in a bit of a better headspace

[charlottesmum04]

yay found you guys.. I put a message to mods about how it wouldnt let me post and they said it was working fine and must have just been me.

Isabella is doing ok. Pretty settled into a routine. No morning sleep ( or a very small half hour one if we get lucky) then asleep by 12, awake again 3:30, cluster feed till 8pm then asleep till 12, and usually a wake for feed at 3am and then up for good between 5 and 6am. After a slow start she is finally starting to gain some weight.

We are mixed feeding. Breast and EBM and formula top ups. Strangely some feeds she wont stop until she has about 20 mls of formula which she then throws up and promptly goes to sleep. However if you dont give her that 20 mls she would stay awake for hours.

Isa has her child health appointment tomorrow and then early intervention with the physio and OT next week. They are being really good about getting things sorted in case she has inherited the EDS from me.

My countdown is on only 4 more days of work!!! Then 7 glorius weeks of holidays.

[tanglez]

Yay I'm glad more have come across! Lozzylots I was so pleased to hear things are on the up after the awful time you had! TJ that is incredible gains, wow, good on you for sticking it out! I also found the website confusing but took only from it hat his increased crying is normal and will pass, plus a cpl extra soothing tips! Charlottesmum I too get puzzled by my LO but I guess that is the joy, things are always changing! Sounds like a great routine you have anyhow!
Joseph seems to be back into a better night sleeping routine but things have been rough with dp. He made som choices about where he dedicated his time over the weekend which devastated me, it left me feeling so so hurt and like the least priority in his life. We have also had some issues with me feeling like I have been the only one to compromise on he big decisions, and although it is only a small thing I was adamant about not using a dummy and he went and used one whle I was sleeping. When I brought up how I felt h responded by saying that I got to give birh and hat is something he will never get. Wtf, so that means he gets to make all the decisions from now on? I'm really sorry for my vent, it has just been a tears and hurt filled weekend.
Wishing everyone well xox