[2littledarlings]

Good evening EB

I have been stewing over this all afternoon and just not feeling right. I have gone to tell my husband twice but it just seems so silly to even put into words. This is what happened....

DS 5 yrs, DD 4 yrs and I had only been home about 10 mins and there was a knock at the door from a plasterer. We had some plumbing work done last week and he said he was just calling by to set up a time to do the plaster repairs because he was not given my number. That's all fine, he asked to come in and have a quick look at what he was doing, fine too I would expect that. It is the downstairs guest bedroom that needs the work, so I showed him in, the kids were watching a movie in the downstairs living room and came to see who was here.

He just stared at them, I even feels silly writing that but he did not just glance at them, say hi and look back at the ceiling, he really really stared at them. Then he commented to my DD how gorgeous she was and said to me she will be quite the heartbreaker. Then he asked her if this was her room, I said it was the spare room and by then kids had gone back to their movie. Whole thing lasted less than 5 mins.

Tell me I am overreacting? I just can't stop thinking about Elizabeth Smart who ended up being taken by someone who had done some work on the house. I think I am just a bit rattled by the 2 Melbourne girls being murdered and reading too much into things.... Right?

It was a harmless exchange wasn't it? I just can't imagine my Dh saying a 4 year old will be quite the heart breaker... And what's with asking if it's her room?

ARGHHHH!

[Mummy Em]

I don't know, it doesn't sound like much from what you described, but I think if your gut is telling you so strongly that something is up, it might be worth checking your security and finding another tradesman.

[Sunshineandsmile...]

trust your instinct!

[pratique]

Don't stress OP. I wouldn't read too much into it. It is something my elderly father would say (meant as a massive compliment)

Most likely scenario is your DD is striking.

[CupOfCoffee]

Never think that niggling feeling is silly. It might not ultimately be right, but it isn't silly (and is important to listen to).

I would also look for another tradesman like Mummy Em said.

[katniss]

I guess the heartbreaker comment is a bit weird. I probably wouldn't have been suspicious of it tho. I've had Coles delivery staff having a chat to my boys while they are hanging around as we unloaded the shopping. I don't know. You do have to trust your gut tho.

[♥~Bodhichitta~♥]

Never think that niggling feeling is silly. It might not ultimately be right, but it isn't silly (and is important to listen to).

Agree with this.

[autumn sun]

Did you get his name? Can you check with the plumbing company that he is the plaster they sent? It's a bit odd that they didn't give him your number to call - or you his number to call.

[lizzzard]

Never think that niggling feeling is silly. It might not ultimately be right, but it isn't silly (and is important to listen to).

I would also look for another tradesman like Mummy Em said.

Yep - I don't think people listen to their instinct enough. I'd be looking for another tradesman as well.

[Pretz]

Hmm. Definitely weird.
If your instincts tell that something is off, I'd get another tradesman and be extra vigilent about security.