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27/11/2012, 11:45 AM
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It is getting harder and harder for me to politely smile and say congratulations when someone announces their pregnancy to me. Especially hard when the woman knows you have had a failed IVF cycle, where you would have been the exact same weeks along, and they're sitting there telling you how great it is
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27/11/2012, 12:11 PM
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Mirror, mirror, shiny glass, tell me that is NOT my ass!!
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Annoucements are hard - I've had 3 family teenage announcements and they all came the day after a failed cycle (the last one was after a chemical pg from my IVF). But I've accepted life doesn't stop because I had failed cycles - even though sometimes I'd like it if it did. Also to make it easier on yourself, stop comparing. QUOTE where you would have been the exact same weeks along Please stop doing that to yourself! I don't allow myself to think 'well today I would have been x weeks pg if it wasn't a chemical pg' or 'I would have a 9 year old if I hadn't of m/c in 2003' - I was being cruel to myself by doing that.
This post has been edited by Bwok~Bwok: 27/11/2012, 12:13 PM
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27/11/2012, 03:20 PM
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QUOTE (Bwok~Bwok @ 27/11/2012, 12:11 PM)  Annoucements are hard - I've had 3 family teenage announcements and they all came the day after a failed cycle (the last one was after a chemical pg from my IVF). But I've accepted life doesn't stop because I had failed cycles - even though sometimes I'd like it if it did.
Also to make it easier on yourself, stop comparing.
Please stop doing that to yourself!
I don't allow myself to think 'well today I would have been x weeks pg if it wasn't a chemical pg' or 'I would have a 9 year old if I hadn't of m/c in 2003' - I was being cruel to myself by doing that. this Bwok you have said it so beautifully I also second what Bwok said about not going "I would be x weeks by now' if I did that then I would be 30+ weeks now. It is hard and just want to send you hugs and hope you and Bwok get a sticky one soon
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28/11/2012, 08:45 PM
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Thank you both. Of course applying those techniques is easier said then done. I was off sick (depressed) for 3 days after my BFN in August and I was only really just starting to have days where I wasn't an emotional wreck. I think it's time to go back to the counsellor.
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01/12/2012, 03:39 PM
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Agreed that's it's easier said than done! I had a friend announce their pregnancy, and after the conversation turned to me and I didn't want to lie, I decided to let these couple if close friends know about my difficulties as one has young twins and the other is nix preg and I thought they may understand. Wrong! They had no idea about how the whole conception process even works as they tried to tell me to go to the dr and get some drugs!! I was baffled, as all they knew is that you have unprotected sex and that leads to falling pregnant. Hmmm.... It's a tough and lonely journey
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02/01/2013, 06:38 PM
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I'm afraid I don't handle hearing pregnancy news very well inside...on the outside I smile and happy for my friends and family members..but it's not easy..I will be 40 this June and decided last June that if we don't concieve by June there's no more trying for us..we have a son who is 3.. So have been very lucky..I think the worse thing that has ever been said by a friend was that her husband just have to look at her and she falls pregnant..then in the 2nd breath said..oh how's things going with your ttc..ohh it must be hard..sorry not much help to u, just know your not alone all the best for ttc journey huni xx
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03/01/2013, 09:37 PM
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QUOTE (Hoping2BaMummy @ 01/12/2012, 04:39 PM)  Agreed that's it's easier said than done! I had a friend announce their pregnancy, and after the conversation turned to me and I didn't want to lie, I decided to let these couple if close friends know about my difficulties as one has young twins and the other is nix preg and I thought they may understand. Wrong! They had no idea about how the whole conception process even works as they tried to tell me to go to the dr and get some drugs!! I was baffled, as all they knew is that you have unprotected sex and that leads to falling pregnant. Hmmm.... It's a tough and lonely journey Unfortunately only the people who have gone through infertility understand what it is like to struggle to concieve. Guess that's why we are on EB, because on here we can talk to people who understand.
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