[my3beautifulboys]

Hi, both Dh and i are really keen to add one more to our family of 3 children. But sadly i have been having recurrent m/c, 3 now! Its very sad and frustrating as i had no trouble with my first 3 at all. Perhaps we'll have to settle for our beautiful three, which we would be happy with, but it would feel more complete if we could have one more. What am i going to do? Keep trying until we manage to have one more, as i am 40 years old now, so time is against me? :-)

[Roadie]

Hi, I don't belong here but find myself checking in this section because like you I can't let go of the idea of one more. I recognized your user name because I had a m/c around the same time as you back in April. Like you, I also had three easy pregnancies with no trouble conceiving. However, since the m/c my husband doesn't want to try again, I understand his reasons even if at times I wish he would change his mind. I,m hoping the desire lessens with time. Anyway, I just wanted to say that I understand how you are feeling.

Hi, I don't belong here but find myself checking in this section because like you I can't let go of the idea of one more. I recognized your user name because I had a m/c around the same time as you back in April. Like you, I also had three easy pregnancies with no trouble conceiving. However, since the m/c my husband doesn't want to try again, I understand his reasons even if at times I wish he would change his mind. I,m hoping the desire lessens with time. Anyway, I just wanted to say that I understand how you are feeling.

[Mousky]

Sorry for your losses OP.

You qualify to be investigated at the recurrent miscarriage clinic if you are over 32 and had 2 MC in a row or under 32 and had 3 MC in a row. Ask your GP for a referral. Alternatively, you can see a private ob. I had 3 in a row and saw a fabulous ob who specialised in miscarriage. PM me if you are in Melbourne and would like her details.

[my3beautifulboys]

Hi Roadie, yes thats right i had my second m/c in april this year, and now here i am again, i cant beleive it. It's really hard on Dh's when it happens, it is a very traumatic time. I feel very lucky to have the three beautiful children that i have, that they are happy and healthy. I can't help but feel a little saddened that i may not be able have one more, but i'm still very lucky. Thanks for replying to my post and best wishes to you with youre family, i hope you'll be able to feel better as time passes.

Hi Mousky, thanks for youre reply and thoughs. I live in W.a, but thanks for the thought. Prior to this m/c i actually saw a gyno and he did alot of different tests, bloods etc. And found nothing wrong, i was taking asprin, folate, iron, and multivitamins, as he advised, but sadly to no avail. I could see a specialist but that would mean travelling some distance to the city. I feel nervous to try again as i feel now that after 3 something isn't right.

[sophiasmum]

It really depends how much more you can take emotionally & whether your DH is on board.

I had a m/c between #2 & # 3, after that DH was ready to stop at 2 but he knew how much it meant to me to complete our family with 3 so he went along & we were lucky to have no more m/c. But I think if I'd had another m/c he would have definitely stopped.

All the best.

[my3beautifulboys]

Thanks for youre reply and for sharing. I know it is very difficult decision to make, Dh and i would both love one more, but he doesnt like seeing me go through m/c as it is a very emotional time. I think he would be happy to try for one more, but it's hard not knowing if it will happen again. Also my age at 40 will make it difficult, as there is more chance of chromosonal disorders as you get older, which is probably contributing to my m/c.

Its a hard decision but i'm sure we'll come to the right decision in time.

[*angelmama*]

Just wanted to wish you all the best. Making that decision, enough's enough, is a tough one.

If you do decide to keep trying I'd recommend seeing that specialist. I knew something wasn't right after so many m/c. My usual doctors kept brushing it off and it was only when I pushed for a 3rd opinion that we got an answer.

xx

[my3beautifulboys]

Hi angelmama, thanks for youre best wishes and for sharing, i'm so sorry that you had to go through m/c as well, its such a difficult time.

I did go and see a different gp just recently, he was actually my doctor that delivered my children, so i feel that he know's me and my history too, which is nice. He was very supportive of our decision to try again, and seems to think that it's just been bad luck for me. He explained that as you get older there is that risk of having chromosonal problems which can cause the pregnancy to fail inthe early stages.

I did ask him if i should see a specialist, he seemed happy that i have seen a gyno and had alot of tests done, so i'm feeling abit confused, should i request further testing or not now?

Best wishes to you for youre precious new baby due early next year.

x

This post has been edited by my3beautifulboys: 30/11/2012, 11:43 PM

[The 7 Dwarfs]

It would take me several m/c's to give up, but then I'm lucky enough to fall pregnant easy enough. I guess if it took me over 6 months each time and they were later into the pregnancy I would likely feel differently. Until 5 or 6 in a row, I'd probably just put it down to bad luck. My youngest DS was my 3rd attempt at #7.

[my3beautifulboys]

hi The 7 Dwarfs, i love youre sig what a beautiful family you have. I know it quite is possibly bad luck, both Dh and i are keen to keep trying, hoping that this next time it will all go smoothly. I don't have any trouble conceiving, it usually happens is the first month or two, althought timing is abit difficult, as Dh works away on a roster shift, 9/5 days, so he's not home all the time. But we'll give it a few months and see what happens.