[MrsLexiK]

Hi all. I don't know where to put this so I thought this could be the safest place.

Ok my mum has really upset me, I don't know if she was having a bad day or brain snap or what but she told me durning the week that I needed to get organised because if the health nurse came around theu would take my baby off me.

Now yes I have clutter and my study and the room that will be the baby's room isn't organised but that is because well I haven't had a need to get them organised because we don't use them. My kitchen is usually pretty clean, knives are kept on the second top shelf in our pantry. There is no mould in my kitchen or toilets or bathrooms. Yeah there was washing in our spare room but thy I because I use airers to dry (as I hate where our clothes line is and there really is no where else to put one)

Anyway I of course balled my eyes out and stormed out of her house. She did try to apologise but I wouldn't have it and just kept asking "why would you say that?" Apparently it was conversation between her and my MIL were talking about it on the weekend at our place. Now I will say you could have eaten off our floor on Sunday as the living areas where beautiful (thanks to DH) I would have liked to have the baby's room cleared by now but DH has spent the last 2 weeks (going on 3 weeks) finishing our pargola area (ie he prepared the whole thing for concrete and him and some mates did the concrete and he has done the acid wash and sealing, redisbuted soil etc) after having a synchronic haemorrhage thing I haven't been to keen to do any sort of lifting so while there is somethings I could move and lift I am relaunct to without DH (basically things need to be sorted in our study and then the big massive home gym can be moved into the study and the tv unit, and DVD shelfs moved into the spare room)

Anyway just to put my mind at ease - the health nurse isn't going to take my baby from me for having washing lying around? Or dust on my tv unit is she?

[imamumto3]

no they won't take your baby because your house is not pristine.

you will find that most of the health nurses are mothers and understand what it is like to have a young child and expect dishes to be on the sink or a basket of washing to be lying around

[Riotproof]

Frick no.

Unless you're living in a hovel with dog poo everywhere, you'll be fine.

[nothing123]

Wow what a stupid thing for her to say.

And no, I've visited places where I refuse to sit down because the couch is so grubby and there are way too many cockroaches. But as long as the baby is well cared for that is what really counts.

[EssentialBludger]

I thought health nurses visited after the birth? No one ever came round when I was pregnant. Even if your house was a shambles, you're not even half way yet. Plenty of time to clean up...

[TheGreenSheep]

No.

[lucky 2]

You are in early pregnancy, what a strange thing for a mother to worry you about.
A CHN doesn't have the authority to take your child off you, she is a reporter though and if she felt there was evidence that your baby was being abused or neglected then she can start the ball rolling and an investigation would be made, but not by the nurse.
You have to provide a safe enviroment for your child and meet his or her needs and I don't think clutter or unfolded washing would prevent you from adequate infant care, unless you kept tripping over something whilst holding the baby and injuries result. I'm being a bit imaginative here.
Unfolded washing doesn' indicate child abuse or neglect, if it does I pity my own child!

[MaMaPepper]

What is it about pregnancy that turns our Mum and MIL into fruitcakes to say it nicely. Take it easy, you'll be fine.

[squeekums]

Dont listen to her.
As long as your not cooking crack in your kitchen or have a sub species spawning from your kitchen and bathroom your fine!
Washing and clutter is nothing

[casime]

Ha like they have nothing better to do than run a gloved finger over the top of your cabinets to check for dust.

Although my CHN told me she thought I might have PND because my house was too clean. No I'm just a single mother so no one else around to make a mess for me to have to clean up.