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Can you take a 2yr old to a Funeral?, Dilemma

Regular Show View Member Profile	23/11/2012, 09:13 AM Post #1
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Sigh I have a dilemma and need to some advice. I have a funeral today - I should really really be there but I have my 2yr old and no one to watch her. My other two children are at school so thats fine. My DF however is having surgery this morning so I cant exactly leave her with him and my MIL has taken him to the hospital because he didnt want me waiting around there for him with said 2yr old. Do I miss out on the funeral or do I go with my 2 yr old?

Therese View Member Profile	23/11/2012, 09:16 AM Post #2
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I think it is ok to take your 2 year old. Of course if she gets noisy you would need to take her outside. As long as you are prepared to do that then I see no issue with taking her. I am sorry for your loss Cadie.

countrymel View Member Profile	23/11/2012, 09:16 AM Post #3
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Sit near the back and if she gets at all scratchy or noisy then quietly slip out.

duckasorus View Member Profile	23/11/2012, 09:16 AM Post #4
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If you have no other options i would sit down the back with some quite things and food bribes.

jmaz86 View Member Profile	23/11/2012, 09:17 AM Post #5
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Personally, I wouldn't take a 2 year old to a funeral, unless it was an immediate family member. I guess you need to maybe weigh up the pros and cons of the situation. Is it going to be a funeral that is going to have the casket up the front of the church...are you going to have to answer questions from your 2 year old regarding it? Also how long is the funeral going to take? Will you 2 year old be able to sustain patience for the duration of the service without interrupting?

Mamabug View Member Profile	23/11/2012, 09:21 AM Post #6
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I'd take her.

niggles View Member Profile	23/11/2012, 09:22 AM Post #7
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I don't think I've ever been to a funeral that didn't have babies and children present. But even if you think there are unlikely to be other children there I would think it's okay so long as you are prepared to slip out/away if disruptive.

ednaboo View Member Profile	23/11/2012, 09:24 AM Post #8
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I've done it twice. You can always stand outside if she gets noisy.

SarahM72 View Member Profile	23/11/2012, 09:25 AM Post #9
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I would take a two year old unless it was a funeral for a baby or a child.

Regular Show View Member Profile	23/11/2012, 09:25 AM Post #10
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I think id rather go and have to slip out when she gets noisy rather than not make the effort to go at all. I feel like I really need to be there. I dont feel like I cant just go. I think i'll take a snack box for her and sit at the back. Thank you guys xo

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