[AllegraM]

So I came across this for the first time recently, whereby parents get all of their children a present on every child's birthday so they don't feel 'left out'. Obviously the birthday child gets more than one present.

Seems a bit odd to me- I loved my brother's birthday as there was always cake and often a party. I have no recollections of feeling jealous about the presents he got and in fact, used to bask in his reflected pleasure over them. After all, my birthday would come around a few months later.

Is this sibling present thing a new trend? I can't imagine buying into it myself but am wondering what others think.

[CupOfCoffee]

To me it kind of negates how special the day is for the actual birthday child.

It is their day and we celebrate it as such.

So we don't buy for both kids on the birthday of one.

[-*meh*-]

no a birthday is about the birthday child...

the only time a sibling should be getting any presents is if they share the birthday!

[mumto3princesses]

Nope, we don't do that. Not even when our girls were little and it was our twins birthday.

DD1 never felt left out. It's their birthday. She would give her sisters each a present from her. Then when its her birthday her sisters give her a present too. As long as they get some birthday cake they are happy.

[sparkles30]

I think it teaches the non-birthday kids a good lesson - everything is not about them, how to celebrate another person and be happy for them etc.

However, this year when my DD turns 4, I will probably give my other DD a little wrapped present as she will be 20 months - old enough to want what her sister is getting, but too young to understand that her turn is coming. She wants to do everything her big sister does so she just wouldn't be able to keep her hands off the presents.

[Lolpigs]

No. Seems odd to me and teaching the wrong behaviour. Even if they do feel left out.. oh well it's not their birthday? When their birthday comes around they will be be focus of everything.

[gettheetoanunner...]

Not the go here.
Presents only for the birthday girl/boy
Siblings go shopping for the birthday kid, so they get the excitement that is giving as well.
Birthday child has then got three siblings shouting "OPEN MINE FIRST!"
Never had any problems
Just as long as there is cake.
Cakes makes everything better.

[RatbagBob]

My mum did that so that I didn't feel left out when my twin siblings had a birthday. They always got a small present on my birthday too.

[Julie3Girls]

My girls get just as excited about their sister's birthday as they do about their own - they love picking out presents for each other, helping to wrap it, who gets to give their present first.

There was never even a thought of getting the non-birthday child a gift. And I don't actually ever recall the other's being upset about not get a present, no matter what the age? Sure, wanting to help open the present, but little ones are pretty easy to distract.

[seayork2002]

I have an only child, but it makes no sense to me