[bjk76]

Just wondering why DS (19mo) isn't interested in having a lovey/comforter to comfort him when upset or trying to sleep, when other toddlers seem to? I'm at home with him full time, we breastfeed and co-sleep.

We only started co-sleeping at 6 months, when he stopped sleeping through the night. I tried giving him a lovey before then, but he wasn't interested and only started becoming interested in cuddling soft toys at 12 months, but only for a few seconds at a time.

Whenever he's upset or needs to go to sleep, he comes to me for a cuddle or a breastfeed.

Anyway, was just wondering if this was common in co-sleeping babies? I'm not worried, just curious!

[ChickenortheEgg?]

Ds has a few but Dh or myself are used as his comforters.

[Charlie & Lola]

I also cosleep and breastfeed with my toddler. He is 28 months. He is the first of my 3 children not to have a comforter - the older 2 did not cosleep or breastfeed for as long.

[Red Cabbage]

He does have a comforter... you!

Some kids just don't have that need or requirement for it.

I have 6 kids, first had a flat out bear, second had 400 odd dummies, third had a ripped pillowslip, fourth had nothing, 5th had taggie and 6th has me. (or my boobs to be more precise.)

I breast feed and co sleep with the 6th, did with the others but just not as long as this little boy who won't take a bottle or dummy.

This post has been edited by Red Cabbage: 21/11/2012, 09:42 PM

[katrina24]

Neither of my kids co slept but they also never wanted a comforter. They did both suck their thumbs and this was their comfort though.

[Anlawich]

None of my children have ever been interested in comforters.

My first i never really co-slept with, she slept through the night quite early on. My last 3 i've either co-slept or fed through the night when they woke.

Perhaps DD1 just wasn't interested in comforters and the last 3 have used me as the comforter!

[lizzzard]

I always thought a lovey was essentially a substitute attachment that children develop to comfort themselves when their mum isn't around...but if you are always available, then your DS probably hasn't had an impetus to establish an attachment to such an item. Not sure if this theory is right or not, but it seemed to describe our situation - DD only developed an attachment to her comfort item when I went back to work and stopped co-sleeping.

[LibbyCo]

Haha you are the comforter! If you have that body heat beside you, why would you need one? Maybe look into getting a down comforter down the road as you can get combi ones which have different togs on different sides. That could ease your little one into sleeping with a duvet

[erindiv]

DD's comforter was (and still is) her thumb.

DS prefers a dummy.

They have their objects that they like such as a favourite soft toy, but they can and do sleep without them.

[BadgerBasher]

I have a dummy fiend. She's fond of her teddy, but teddy is no replacement for dummy.