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Ask guests to contribute toward the band's cost at a party?, How???

Velvetta View Member Profile	21/11/2012, 03:21 PM Post #1
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A friend is throwing a 50 th birthday party. She is paying for all the food and the venue herself and doesn't want presents, but the band costs $600 and she is running out of money.(She has already added up $2000 in costs) The invitations are already out but she thought she might ask for donations at the venue to help cover costs. She just doesn't know how to word it... Can anyone help? This post has been edited by Velvetta: 21/11/2012, 03:22 PM

qak View Member Profile	21/11/2012, 03:28 PM Post #2
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Is the party for herself?

Charlies Angel View Member Profile	21/11/2012, 03:29 PM Post #3
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I wouldn't, I couldn't, do this to my friends (even though I know that they would contribute if I asked). I would rather cut back in other areas of my life, and chalk up the lessons learnt re budgeting from this experience.

Lib View Member Profile	21/11/2012, 03:30 PM Post #4
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She wants to have a party....she needs to pay for it......or charge a cover charge and see how many people turn up.

Gembac8019 View Member Profile	21/11/2012, 03:32 PM Post #5
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I think it would be rude. She should find another band that is cheaper. or fund it herself.

luxi00 View Member Profile	21/11/2012, 03:34 PM Post #6
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No definitely not. I think this is so, so rude. If I was asked to contribute, I wouldn't go.

HollyOllyOxenfre... HollyOllyOxenfree View Member Profile	21/11/2012, 03:37 PM Post #7
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I don't think there's a polite way to ask, because it's rude. Cancel the band, take an iPod dock or a CD player. Edited for terrible spelling and typing This post has been edited by HollyOllyOxenfree: 21/11/2012, 03:38 PM

Guest_Maybelle_*	21/11/2012, 03:37 PM Post #8


Am I reading you right...that she wants to ask for money once people are at the party? I can't think of any way to word that, and my group of friends are all for pot-luck/everyone throw in some money to buy the food/BYO type events. I think she is just going to need to cancel the band and do a fabulous mix tape.

melanieb530 View Member Profile	21/11/2012, 03:38 PM Post #9
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I believe OP was asking for help with the wording not judgements. FWIW I would love to contribute to the band as a present for the birthday girl instead of buying some item she may not really want or need.

snortle View Member Profile	21/11/2012, 03:41 PM Post #10
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QUOTE (Velvetta @ 21/11/2012, 04:21 PM) A friend is throwing a 50 th birthday party. She is paying for all the food and the venue herself and doesn't want presents, but the band costs $600 and she is running out of money.(She has already added up $2000 in costs) The invitations are already out but she thought she might ask for donations at the venue to help cover costs. She just doesn't know how to word it... Can anyone help? That is all

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