[TillyTake2]

I hope I don't offend any twin mummies. You do an incredibly amazing job & I realise having twins isn't usually a choice but I'm wondering why it seems quite popular to WANT to hav twins?

I don't have twins but there are a lot in my family & the idea of having twins scares the crap out of me! One baby at a time is hard enough!!

So, if you are one of those people who would actually CHOOSE to have twins why is that? What is it about twins that appeals? Do you have any children yet? Do you have any close family or friends with twins (who you've known since they were babies!)

[newyearbaby]

Maybe they don't know how hard it can be, especially if something goes wrong? Or maybe they like the attention it brings? Or maybe they just love the idea of having two at once to save having another pregnancy?

I didn't really know anyone with twins, just knew adult twins really, before having mine. But I am loving having twins now. It's very interesting as they are 2 very different babies. And they are starting to like having each other around. It's a bit different which is always good.

I'm interested in what made you ask this?

[mad madam mim]

I have twins, but would never choose it (though we knew the risks when TTC were high due to ovulation induction).

Honestly I think most are just idiots who see twins as "oh so cute", get that pigeon pair out of the way in just one pregnancy, who cares if it puts not only your life but the life of your unborn children at risk because hey "that won't happen to me".

I absolutely adore my children, but I had complications during my twin pregnancy that put my babies at risk, it was hard, I felt so so bad for DS1 who spent very little time with me due to me being put on and off bed rest, I don't think he remembers any of it due to his age, but that doesn't change the fact that it happened.


Edited to add: I have known two sets of identical twins since primary school, though I can't ever really having a conversation with them about any of it, 4 very different people, who just happen to look alike (so damn hard to tell them apart from their twin even after all this time lol).

This post has been edited by mad madam mim: 20/11/2012, 01:32 PM

[nessrose]

I've had a singleton, twins, singleton, conceived twins again but lost one.

The idea of twins appealed to me as I am a twin myself. it was great growing up with a brother the same age as me. We did everything together as kids, got to start school together, although always had different sets of friends and are great mates. My other sisters and brother were many years older than us.

I guess some people just think of the cuteness factor and not the risks involved in having them, the hard work and sleepless nights.

If I could choose, yes i would have our angel twin with us. It makes me really sad looking at DD5 and thinking we should of had a 6th one too. I'm sad for her that she will miss out on the special bond I had with my brother growing up. I suppose she won't know any different though.

I guess everyone is different. I always wanted a big family so it wasn't an issue.

[lsolaBella]

I jokingly wanted my 2 nd PG to be twins.... But that was to take out the argument of whether we had two or three kids.

With my 3 rd PG I was" thank god it is only 1" at the dating scan.

My best friends in primary school were ID twins and late high school,fraternal twins.



This post has been edited by lsolaBella: 20/11/2012, 01:39 PM

[MrsLexiK]

I jokingly wanted my 2 nd PG to be twins.... But that was to take out the argument of whether we had two or three kids.

This is me, I don't want to do pregnancy again, the stress of miscarriage or something else going wrong (not to mention any horrible pregnancy symptons) just worries me too much, the fact that we got pregnant without IVF is amazing and I don't think I can go on the TTC roller coaster again. But in all honesty sometimes I would like more then one child. I know DH would have 2 - 3 easily. I know there are risks involved with a twin pregnancy, but if they told us it was twins up front I wouldn't have been to scared/worried.

[TinyTeddys]

A friend of mine (with many sets of twins in her family) wants twins for her second pregnancy purely because her husband wants to stop at two and she wants three kids.

[la di dah]

There are two sets of twins in my family (cousins to me and cousins to each other). One b/g and one g/g.

If you're not informed of the health issues it can seem really cool and cute. And honestly, the fact that twins face a much higher risk of dangers in utero and ongoing issues is not really well known by the public at large.

I don't think people think "ooh, I want a pair!" because they're mean or dismissive of the real issues I think most don't even know.

You hear about dangers for higher order multiples, but even with that I've met people who think the issue is using some medical process/drug and not that even naturally-conceived multiples are much more risky than singletons. "Oh I wouldn't have 8 babies put inside me, I know that's not natural/healthy, but if I could just have natural twins/triplets..." it's innocence, really, that makes people say that, not malice or something. Though I can understand why it bothers mothers of multiples.

[Isobell]

I wanted twins once. I was TTC for 5 years with multiple IVF cycles. After 3 failed cycles we started to transfer 2 embryos at once. I knew the risks but thought it would be wonderful to have 2 children "guaranteed" instead of the uncertainty of going back to IVF to try for #2.
Now that I have my wonderful DS I am soooo glad we didn't get twins. He is average I think, not easy, but certainly not hard, but I have struggled and found it much harder than I expected. I don't think I would have coped with twins, at all. And although I want another, I am scared of having twins next time. Being over 35 and using IVF makes it a real possibility. Eeek.

[Zoskie]

I like the idea but don't like the fact is involving lots of hard works and I am still just barely coping with 1 child atm.

For me and DH are age factor. after 2nd child, we will be 35 YO and I would like to have 3 kids.. but I don't think it's gonna happen. So we stick with 2 kids instead.