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> Do you go to a party when it's obvious you're an afterthought?

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cluckybeez
post 20/11/2012, 11:52 AM
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Just curious.... when you've been invited to a close relatives child's birthday as an after-thought (I.e. you find out everyone else going has been told of the party well in advance), do you go?

My reaction is to always do the right thing by the child... But I just wonder if I should really go with me child if we weren't really "special enough" to make the proper invite list?

I know it's a bit fluffy... just interested in opinions please.
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post 20/11/2012, 11:57 AM
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I suppose it would depend on a few things.....

If it was a hassle and I already had plans (however changeable) then no, I wouldnt go to any stress to be there.
Are your kids friends, if yes, then maybe. If not, then no.

Is there free booze? Yep and I would gulp it down. wink.gif
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post 20/11/2012, 12:01 PM
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Depends how close the relative is really.

If you're actually close to them maybe they thought you knew, and just assumed you were coming so didn't give you an actual invite.

If it's a 'close' relative just because they're a cousin then no, I wouldn't be going. I don't have time in my life for people who don't have time for me unless they're forced to, which is what it sounds like has happened.
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cluckybeez
post 20/11/2012, 12:09 PM
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Looks like it's a yes then? Children are friends and there will be free booze!
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post 20/11/2012, 12:15 PM
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Yes, I would - if I wanted to go.

I have a very large extended family with over 20 cousins. They usually invite their immediate family and friends first. If there is room left over, I might get an invite.

I've been invited to things at the last second because someone else has pulled out. If it's something I want to go to and will have a good time at, yes I will go.

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post 20/11/2012, 12:16 PM
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If I know for a fact that my invite was a 'duty' invite, then no I probably wouldnt go.

If its unusual for them to forget about me (us) and we are generally really close then I would go with the assumption that someone forgot to pass on a message or something similar.

Dont go if you dont want to. Dont go if you feel its a duty.
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post 20/11/2012, 12:30 PM
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QUOTE (BetteBoop @ 20/11/2012, 01:15 PM) *
Yes, I would - if I wanted to go.

I have a very large extended family with over 20 cousins. They usually invite their immediate family and friends first. If there is room left over, I might get an invite.

I've been invited to things at the last second because someone else has pulled out. If it's something I want to go to and will have a good time at, yes I will go.


I could undertand being an afterthought for extended family. Just seems a bit strange to be an afterthought when you're immediate family.
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post 20/11/2012, 12:31 PM
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Related child, I'd go.

Otherwise probably not.
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cluckybeez
post 20/11/2012, 12:37 PM
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Tougher decision than I thought. Thanks for opinions.

Think invite is out of duty. There has been no "sorry we forgot" etc.

It hurts to think we would put these people top of our invite list.
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post 20/11/2012, 12:41 PM
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That sounds hard. To be honest I'd probably go unwillingly, be secretly a bit suspicious and wary of everyone, and then probably end up relaxing and having a good time.
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