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How would you react?, Teenager dating older man

TwoHeadedGirl View Member Profile	18/11/2012, 08:27 PM Post #1
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Without going into too much detail, I am wondering how other people would react if a close female family member (daughter/sister/cousin etc), who is only a teenager (16-17), told you she was dating a much older man (mid-thirties)? Just need some perspective. Cheers.

Escapin View Member Profile	18/11/2012, 08:29 PM Post #2
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I think I'd ask to meet the guy. (While internally plotting the removal of his testicles...)

Jemstar View Member Profile	18/11/2012, 08:30 PM Post #3
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I would think it horrible, and I wouldn't be shy about letting it be known either. A. man in his mid-thirties has no business having a romance with a 16-17 year old girl.

Taff View Member Profile	18/11/2012, 08:31 PM Post #4
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statutory rape. How would I feel - I'd make sure he would never want to see her again - ( ie he would be beaten to a pulp) This post has been edited by Taff: 18/11/2012, 08:36 PM

idignantlyright View Member Profile	18/11/2012, 08:31 PM Post #5
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Talk to her and try and find out exactly what it is about this man that makes her want to go out with him. Sometimes it just runs it's course and doesn't last very long at all. I know for me it was a mix of him being a father type figure, plus he didn't treat me like a stupid naughty schoolgirl with a baby. I was 17 and he was 39. If they are over 16 it is not statutory rape. This post has been edited by idignantlyright: 18/11/2012, 08:35 PM

adl View Member Profile	18/11/2012, 08:31 PM Post #6
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Honestly I find it a bit creepy... Any father issues? .would I say that probably not....good article last week in Sunday papers how women with older men ended up as carers....perhaps the novelty will wear off??? This post has been edited by adl: 18/11/2012, 08:32 PM

RunawayPrincess View Member Profile	18/11/2012, 08:39 PM Post #7
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Well my parents openly disapproved of my relationship with DF. I was 17 and he was 24. I certainly wouldn't go about it the way my parents did, it just made me want the relationship more. I'd probably want to meet him, and get to know him, and hope that with time the relationship will end, if not (like DF and I) then I'd like to think I'd have gotten to know him and can put the age difference aside (give it a few years and no one would blink at the age difference).

duckasorus View Member Profile	18/11/2012, 08:41 PM Post #8
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At that age i wouls not be happy... I would meet him and grill. He has no need to be seeing a child and i would be making a police report. I was 18 and he was 25. 18 or over i would butt out This post has been edited by duckasorus: 18/11/2012, 08:44 PM

idignantlyright View Member Profile	18/11/2012, 08:45 PM Post #9
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QUOTE (duckasorus @ 18/11/2012, 09:41 PM) He has no need to be seeing a child and i would be making a police report. If she is over 16 there is legally nothing that can be done. Sometimes nothing will even be done if the girl is 14-16.

Sinister Bonnet View Member Profile	18/11/2012, 08:49 PM Post #10
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Father Dougal for the Papacy!
There's nothing to be gained by a police report.

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