[sarahec]

Basically I'm interested to hear if I'm being totally unreasonable.Next year when my son will be 15 months my husband has 5 weeks off work. He told me he wanted to go on holiday to his home country (UK). When I asked who would be babysitting as I plan to go back to work part time next year he said he wants to take DS with him. My response was "like hell you will!"I don't get along with his mother, we have very different views on parenting. My husband is not hands on at all. Plus I would miss my baby like crazy.Would you let your child go OS with father/ mother without you? And at what age?


When I say not hands on he has never bathed the baby, doesn't change nappies if its anything more than pee, has never put the baby to bed etc. I've given up trying to get him to do these things.

This post has been edited by sarahec: 14/11/2012, 09:18 PM

[TillyTake2]

At that age, no. My son is 2 and it would still be no. I imagine it will remain a no for some time. I don't think my husband would want me to take him either.

[nlman]

Not if I had a strained relationship with my husband and/or his family!

BTW: I would 'allow' my husband, but I can't imagine that he would want to.

[tothebeach]

I love my husband and trust him to parent responsibly. I have taken my own children to see my parents for extended periods of time and would be shocked if my husband objected. So I would never have a response like: 'like hell you will'. He is the father of my children, the only person in the world who loves our children as much as I do.

[*LucyE*]

DH wants to take DS on a father and son only holiday next year. DS will be 9yrs old.

I have great no issues with it and think it will be great for bonding.

At 15months though, I was still breastfeeding and would have missed him like crazy. For a few nights, maybe but not for a few weeks overseas. It's not that I wouldn't trust DH but I feel that period is still important for attachment and security with the primary care giver.

The not a hands on dad thing wouldn't bother me so much. I found that DH would stand back if I was willing to 'do it all' but was perfectly capable when I wasn't around.

[feliz6]

My husband wants to return to home country with ds when he is a similar age. If I can't trust dh to look after ds then who can I trust!! I would find it hard being away from ds though so might take leave from work and go too.

[NotBitzerMaloney]

I love my husband and trust him to parent responsibly. I have taken my own children to see my parents for extended periods of time and would be shocked if my husband objected. So I would never have a response like: 'like hell you will'. He is the father of my children, the only person in the world who loves our children as much as I do.

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[irishgirly]

My family live in Ireland and I understand how much they miss the grand children. They would be distraught if they weren't allowed to visit because of a clash with one of us.
Is your DH upset? I would definitely say 5 weeks is a long time. Could you compromise and say 2-3, would
you consider going too?

[ali-song]

I'd be pretty hypocritical not to let DH take either of my kids given that I took each of them OS when they were less than six months old. I wouldn't be too keen on five weeks, but for a couple of weeks - sure! No better way to make him into a hands on parent.

[JRA]

Yes, of course I would he is our sons father. He is just as, well actually, more capable of looking after DS than I am.

Or simply, as tothebeach says