[udontnome]

My son's (6 years old - year 1) teacher went on maternity leave at the end of last term. He says to me on the way home mrs xx had her baby his name was xx & he died. I was a bit taken aback so I quizzed him further & he is adamant that's what the class was told. He said a few girls in his class cried & they did some cards for the teacher.

My first thought was oh it's a bit odd that would tell such young children this news - no note came home. When I spoke to my husband about it he was a bit angry that the school/teacher would just announce news like that.

Wdyt?? Would you ring the school to find out?

This post has been edited by udontnome: 14/11/2012, 08:56 PM

[nlman]

Why would it be odd that the children were told that a baby had died?

I am astounded that you would ring the school to verify if the children had been told. If you were ringing to pass along your condolences, that would be lovely.

I find your attitude incredibly callous.

[Chelli]

That is so sad Personally if that did happen, I believe in being honest with children. That said though, at such a young age, I would have thought that the school would send something home with the children like a note to say what has occurred in case they are upset at home and need extra support.

I would contact the school to ascertain what has happened, but also bear in mind that they may also be in a state of grief and shock so may not have thought to prepare a notice to send home.

[tothebeach]

Why would you be angry? I'm not really following your train of thought. If Ms xx did have a stillborn baby, then they have told the children and I wouldn't think any more of it. If your child is upset, then by all means followup at school so that you can explain it to your child at home. I think that a note would be OTT.

[Overtherainbow]

Í'm not surprised the children know but I am surprised no note came home.

[kerrie23]

Why would you and your husband be angry about it? That seems so cold of you both. I think that it is lovely that the children made cards for the teacher and horribly sad that the poor woman lost her baby.

What purpose would it serve to call the school p*ssed about your son being told the truth?

I actually remember a situation like this when I was in primary school, a teacher lost twins in a car accident at 7 months, it was horrible and we were told the truth. I also recall when my sister was stillborn the children in my class made cards for my family, it was a lovely thought.

This post has been edited by kerrie23: 14/11/2012, 09:03 PM

[feliz6]

I wouldn't have a problem with that. When the teacher returns from leave kids are bound to ask about her baby. That could be very difficult for the teacher to deal with if the kids hadn't already Been told. I certainly would not expect a note to go home. I think that would be Hard on the teacher.

[Becky Thatcher]

I would just ring the school to ask if it was the truth and say to the office staff that I was very sorry.

I wouldn't be upset that the class had been told.


ETA:I would just ring to find out the truth as I know kids could maybe get the story wrong

This post has been edited by LindsayMK: 14/11/2012, 09:07 PM

[doctorseuss]

My friend lost her newborn when she taught prep. The children were told by the new teacher, and made a lovely scrap book where each child drew a picture and wrote a message. It was age appropriate stuff - lots of rainbows and suns - and it was heart-warming. The book was displayed at the funeral and was a great comfort to her.

She went back to work earlier than she planned and the last thing she needed was 25 kids asking about her baby. A family has lost a child...your child being hearing sad news does not compare. Why isn't your DH thinking about the teacher's loss?

Death is a part of life on earth and shouldn't be hidden from children.

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This post has been edited by *magenta*: 02/01/2013, 09:59 AM