[nationalvelvet]

I have a friend on FB whom I have never met. I have not met her DH either.
But we have been friends for about six years now.

Her DH often bullys me on FB..publicly. At first, I thought he was joking but he can get quite vicious and will embarrass me.
He isn't a young person either - I would say he is in his late 50's.

We remember each other at christmas and I often send them cards/gifts and presents for their little boy.
I was invited to their wedding but unable to attend but sent them a lovely wedding present. They live in another state.

I am very courteous to him but now his bullying has gotten out of hand.
First it was things like this:-

If my friend was posting about a meal she was intending to cook.
I would reply by saying, "Oh, sounds lovely".
He would comment underneath and say something silly,
like, "OHHHHHHhhh can you hear how lovely the food is? lmao"

Just lately I made a comment and he treated me like I was some nutcase by replying
"Oh she doesn't like it...Oh heck, WW3 is going to erupt lmao".
**She**(The cat's mother)

He makes me seem like a fool.

I blocked him the other day because it was upsetting me.
Should I tell my friend?

Just lately, I am beginning to see that she is changing in her personality and becoming a little like him.

This post has been edited by debspotatohead: 09/11/2012, 09:31 PM

[JRA]

From what you post it is hard to comment.

You haven't met her, or her husband. It is hard to know how close you really are.

Making the comment "you can hear the food", from "sounds lovely", I don't see as bullying, just a classic smart comment. In this house playing with words as such is normal. "I am cold" gets the comeback "Hi I am fred" etc. The sounds lovely just fits in that category

This post has been edited by JRA: 09/11/2012, 09:43 PM

[crankybee]

Yeah you should be upfront with her. She will realise and so will he. Just say "I got sick of all the nasty, condescending comments"

He sounds like a ****wit!

[1/2aDozen]

If you have never met them it sounds like a friendship you could live without.

[sa5ha]

Just don't post on her things on Facebook if you don't want to deal with her husband commenting too.

You could always just text her or send a private message instead.

But from what you've said, I think saying that he's bullying you is being a bit oversensitive. He just sounds like a bit of a smarta** that might come across the wrong way without the interaction being face to face. Or he's just a jerk.
Either way, doesn't seem like a big enough deal to really do much about except ignore it in one way or another to me.

[becstar101]

Sounds a bit silly and immature, but I wouldn't say bullying.

Just defriend or block him and ignore all comments. If you see her heading the same way, defriend her. Online friendships can end firly painlessly.

[libbylu]

I really don't understand how people become friends on facebook with people they have never met. Seems like a weird and risky thing to me.
I read it like your friend holds you in high esteem and her husband likes to give you sh*t to stir up his wife. Does she ever come to your defence? Presumably she is well aware of the comments since she is friends with you both it would come up in her feed, and she probably pays attention to what her husband is writing.

I would just drop the communication with the two of them for a while - if you really want to communicate something in particular with your friend, send her a PM.
If you find he is commenting on things you are writing, like your status updates, that have nothing to do with the two of them, then just defriend him.

[Guest_3Keiki_*]

I really don't understand how people become friends on facebook with people they have never met. Seems like a weird and risky thing to me.

Yeah me too. You don't KNOW these people. This is not real life stuff, they could be nothing like you 'know' them on FB. Either way they are upsetting you, simple really - defriend. Surely stress and unhappiness in your RL is more important that a FB friend.....

[ZombieMum]

As you've never met, you don't know if he is being nice and joking with you or not - you can't hear the tone in his voice or see his body language, so you can't be sure it's bullying.

It's possible he has a quirky sense of humour or is quite immature.

If my friend was posting about a meal she was intending to cook.
I would reply by saying, "Oh, sounds lovely".
He would comment underneath and say something silly,
like, "OHHHHHHhhh can you hear how lovely the food is? lmao"

I'd maybe reply with something like
Always look forward to your literal sense of humour comments.

[Old Grey Mare]

Reason number 6973 that I'm glad I don't use Facebook.