[hiccamups]

Your Mum sounds like mine OP, although thankfully she doesn't do it about baby names. But the giving me sh*t part she gets far too much joy out of. Not fair.

I've only ever sworn at my mother once, and I called her a s*ut. So I can say you're doing better than me. I meant my insult too.

Harsh.

[Leafprincess]

Mil was like that when DP announced bubs name (secret for now- but it's unusual)

"oh, don't you dare, that's horrible" etc.

She thought I would side with her, as DP had named him.

I replied: "it's his son, he can name him what he wishes."

She tried to continue to carry on.

DP said she had plenty of time to get used to it before our son was born and showed her the door not long after.

[mad madam mim]

My sister and I have very different tastes in names, I didn't care and neither did she, we both chose names we liked. But we never spoke to eachother in the way your mother was speaking to you, I don't think you were being hormonal at all.

[BadCat]

My mum hates my son's name. But she was never as rude about it as your mum has been. You were totally justified in swearing at her.

[*Mumma-to-A*]

My DS spilt the beans on a name we were considering (cause it is his favourite) My mum doesn't like it because she works with someone with the name and doesn't like her. All she does now is suggest different names and how her grandmother got the "rights" to name her (her suggestion is Alice, my DS's name is in my sig and DH starts with Al too.). Annoys me to no end.

But it couldn't be as worse as my DH who will only suggest names I hate early on and will not even discuss finalising a name as he thinks we have plenty of time. Our DS was unnamed for nearly a week I don't want that this time.

[Dabri]

I think your mother acted quite appallingly.

If I were you I would come up with the worst possiblr name you can think of - and even better if it has old-time homosexual connotations - and tell her you've decided on it. Firstly you can have a dumptruck of fun with her until the name is announced, and when it is she hopefully won't hate on the name Tristan so much in comparison.

LDD started a 100-page thread ages ago with the worst names if you needinspiration.

[KarenBubMachine]

I dont think you were OTT at all.

A friend (preg with her 2nd child) told me when I found out I was preg, not to tell anyone the names you and DH are thinking about.

Early in my preg I told MIL that we have Phoenix chosen for a boy. The name un-grew (is that a word?) on me so it ended up not being on my final list but one of her comments along the way were 'your not still calling the baby Phoenix are you', well, no but not because of you.

She liked to put her two cents in 'oh I heard the most wonderful name the other day, Xanthe, spelt with an X, isnt that lovely'. Well yes it is lovely but it didnt grow on me and the poor name almost gets rejected because you came up with it!

Just tell everyone, including her, that your not telling anyone the names you have chosen out and that you have several for each sex and will see what baby looks like when he/she arrives.

Luckily enough, my mum and I never entered into name discussions. Shes a librarian at a school and every name I could come up with, shes would have had a 'horrible' one of them so we never talked about it. Plus she knew well how much importance I would have put into her opinion on my childs name (ie none)

[fancie]

I Tristan.

As truly awful as your mother is being, take no notice. You have class and good taste - she doesn't.

[familyequalslove]

Yes, been there.

I told my mother that she could choose the name if she pushed out the baby.

[Zesty]

We knew name of our baby before we went for the scan that would show the sex. My Mother BEGGED me to change the girls name because, according to her, it was "awful and I don't like it". I told her that I didn't care. We went on to have a girl and she is named the one my Mother didn't like. She has admitted that she couldn't imagine her with any other name now because she loves it so much.