[ellejays]

We had our first OB appointment today and had another little scan to see our bean, who was WAVING AT US!!

I'm feeling a bit weird though and would appreciate your thoughts. We got pg much quicker than expected - I had expected it would take 6-12 months and it took 8 weeks!! I think my husband is feeling unprepared and unsure about the whole thing. Also, since we found out we are expecting, his contract did not get renewed and so he is currently unemployed.

I don't feel like I can get super excited yet because I would like us to be excited together about becoming parents, and to be honest I'm disappointed that things aren't a bit more happy and carefree. But I just don't think he's got the headspace to feel much except for worry and stress at the moment. He will be a great father but it's important to him to feel like a provider and not an unemployed loser (his words not mine!!). So I'm having difficulty balancing being happy and looking forward to this change and wanting to support my husband through these two massive changes in our lives.

Thoughts? Wisdoms? Thanks in advance.

[emelsy]

My DP was never as excited as me with DS and after a while I came to nderstand that it was very different for both of us. My life started changing the moment I fell pregnant whereas his only changed once we had DS. And then it changed to a much lesser degree than mine.
I mean, I had all the physical changes and impact on work ad social life whereas DP's work, physical and social life didn't really change at all (ok social life once baby came along but he could still go out 'unencumbered'.)
I find personally sharing my baby stupid excitement better with my mum or bestie.
In regards to supporting him, I think all you can do is....be supportive which you are trying to do. Keep telling him he's going to find work and how specifically he's oing to be a good dad (ie 'you're so much more patient than I, you're going to be so good when it comes to putting baby to sleep' etc)

Good luck!
Oh, my one piece of advice is try not to do what I do and nag 'why can't you be happy!'. It doesn't help the situation at all but alas I am dumb and often do dumb things!

[ellejays]

My DP was never as excited as me with DS and after a while I came to nderstand that it was very different for both of us. My life started changing the moment I fell pregnant whereas his only changed once we had DS. And then it changed to a much lesser degree than mine.

Thanks emelsy.

I think it's more that he's having a hard time and I don't want to rub it in his face by being super happy and excited while he is stressed and worried. And my biggest fear is bringing a baby into the world that isn't wanted, and because he is stressed and not very excited about all this, sometimes I feel a bit that way.

It will be nice when I have my mum and friends to get excited with me. And hopefully DH will feel more positive about it all soon (and yes, I'm sure he'll be a great dad when the bub arrives).

[quiltingmumma12]

We had a scan at what we thought was 8 weeks, scan was internal But showed we were 6weeks & 1 day, Heart beat was 115 . My friend is a midwife and said it's often rare to see a heartbeat that early, I'm pretty sure she thought 7-8 weeks was more likely.

I still need to book my 12 week bloods and scans- I'm 10 weeks now... Will anyone be going to a special kind of clinic or just the local xray/ultrasound place? Does it matter?

[Kiwi Bicycle]

Your care provider normally will refer you to where they would prefer you to have you scan. Also you do want to go to someone professional for the 12 week scan as they need to be trained to measure for Downs correctly. It's not just a check the baby's growth and abnormalities scan.

[BeInAwe]

I had a dating scan in my 7th week of pregnancy and our baby had a heartbeat of 170. I was told this was a good strong heartbeat so I hope that's right (this is my first baby) :-/

What is the next scan that you should have after your 12 week scan? I have to see the Ob but I was just curious...

[Kiwi Bicycle]

Your next scan if everything is going along normally is an 18-20 week scan and then possibly one right at the end of your pregnancy.
You will have more if there's issues.

[chloesmum2008]

What is the next scan that you should have after your 12 week scan? I have to see the Ob but I was just curious...

The 12wk scan is the down syndrome scan. It is optional so not everyone has it done. If you're wanting to have one just ask your ob for a referal.