[itsaboysworld]

I think it depends on the day

That made me giggle

[bakesgirls]

I feel so differently about bakesgirls quote. If something were to happy to one of my children, I would be shattered and I do wonder how I'd ever survive. HOwever, if something happened to my husband, I know I would be okay!

I definitely love my kids more than my husband - I would be lost without them but I know I'd be okay if something should ever happen to him (as devastated as I'd be!).

Don't get me wrong. If something were to happen to one of my children, I would be devestated. I wouldn't want to live. The point I am getting at is I would have my husband for support.

I'm not saying I love one more than the other. It's just different love. I do however put my marital relationship first. This would only change if it was detrimental to my children or they were in danger, which they are not.

[redkris]

What Danzie said. The love I have for DS is almost at a chemical level, I have no choice in the matter. I'd take a bullet for him. If I'm away from him for more than a night, I really start to pine for him, for want of a better word...I just need to see him and cuddle him.
But I'm "in love" with DH and that's how it should be. Also, despite the love I feel for DS, there are many days that I "like" DH a hell of a lot more, and just to have someone around who understands me like no-one else does is so great...I manage ok when he's not there, but he will always be my safe place to fall.

[ABeautifulLife]

I think men and women view and put different values on relationships with each other and their children. My husband once told me that as much as he loves our children, he feels that the loss of a child would be devestating but the loss of me would be life-shattering. I thought it was a very candid and honest statement that showed the depth of our relationship. As previous posters have commented children will eventually leave home and you need to keep the relationship between partners strong as you will (hopefully) have many years with just the two of you again. Its funny though because as much as I love my children, I have always felt my husband loved them more. Just goes to show some people have an enormous amount of love to share

[Cancerian Moon]

There's an old saying that's always annoyed me: "Men love women, women love children, children love hamsters". It's rubbish.
I agree with the PPs that you can't really compare the two.

[MidnightDad]

Country singer Keith Urban has stirred a potential hornets nest in an interview for this month's Australian Women's Weekly, where he confesses he puts his relationship with his wife Nicole Kidman ahead of his children.

He has not been married even six years. If this brave passes the ten year mark of his marriage he may enter my tent to speak of the conflicts of love of spouse and children, but until then I consider him only a hollow booming log.

[AryaStar]

What Danzie said. The love I have for DS is almost at a chemical level, I have no choice in the matter. I'd take a bullet for him.

Definitely. Until I experienced it firsthand after I had DS I had no idea the depth of love I could feel for another human being. It is so different from romantic love I simply can't compare them. The love I have for my child is so deep-rooted and primal I would sacrifice my life to save his or put myself in harms way to protect him without a moment's thought.

Is that even "love"? Or some deeply ingrained function of genetic preservation?

Tough one to answer but if I had to choose one I'd lean towards my child, who is only two years old and still totally dependent on me so I'm sure that heavily influences my answer.

This post has been edited by Shady Lane: 03/04/2012, 01:56 PM

[Bluenomi]

Well if it came down to making a choice between saving my DD or my DH, I'd save DD. But I don't know if that means I love her more, it's just because DH is a grown up and I'd expect him to save himeself where as DD couldn't.

I love them both but like others in a different way. I'm DD's mother, I can't help but love her, it's ingrained into every part of me. I've know her since birth, she's never been a stranger, she always been my child. DH on the other hand I had to learn to love as he went from being a complete stranger to my boyfriend to my husband.

[KnightsofNi]

I love my kids more. I would be disappointed in my DH if he professed he loved me more than our children.

[Guest_Buy Me A Pony !_*]

Do these same people who have an order of love, also love one child more than others? Love is not a finite resource IME but I know that for many people it is. DH and I made a pact years ago that we would never allow children to divide us and that it's more important for us to work together and foster the best communication between us so that we can handle whatever life (and children) throw at us . It's working so far. DH nor I would also never intentionally put them in harms way so it's a no brainer for us.