[Mama Honey B]

Living life to all it's extremes in love, work & play I found myself at 35...no mans no baby...but I was soooo ok with that...then POW out of the blue 37 met 'the one who made me laugh till I cried' engaged, baby...39 baby number 2..now 40 and FABULOUS. We have a wealth of life experience to bring to the table...so LOVE it with all your heart everyday.

Did you put kids on the 'to do list'...or was it just not a factor in your world..till the later years?

[Bloomer]

I wanted to have children but like you at 35 no one in sight and not prepared to do it on my own.. then met DH at 39 married at 40 and needed to reverse his vasectomy twice.. Finally DD1 at 42 and DD2 at 45..

No way would I recomend any one wait but when given the choice to have a child older or not at all I know what I would choose.. in fact I did.

[Codswallop]

I was 37 when I had my daughter, I feel younger than a lot of my friends act, so I don't feel it has been a problem at all being an older Mummy. I have all the time in the world for her, have no financial worries and a great husband who also has a lot of spare time so we can spend a lot more time together.

[Allymeg69]

Belinda, I was very like you, even very similar with the ages things happened, I had never seen myself being a young mum but equally didn't think I'd be having my first baby at nearly 41. In my 20s I was probably a bit ambivalent about the idea of kids, but as I got older I became certain it was something I wanted. DH has 3 kids of his own, youngest was just over 3 when we met, and I felt that if for some reason we couldn't have one together then at least I would have the experience of parenting. Fast forward a bit, and our DS is now 15 months and life is wonderful! Can't pretend there haven't been some hiccups, and I have had a fairly significant health scare in the last year, but we are living life to the full and I only very occassionally feel my years. Power to us!

[Heylee]

Hi, My story sounds similar. All the messy stuff before meeting the love of my life... My DP & I have decided to TTC #1 - I'm 41. Hopefully we haven't left it too late, but I feel encouraged by the above comments

[Aqua Kitty Kat]

Interested to know - what age are you classed as an older mum?

[wallofdodo]

37 I think.

Number 1 was easy to conceive when I was 37. number two has not been so easy, I'll be 40 this year, and not yet pregnant. I think my age has caught up with my fertility. Actually getting pregnant hasn't been too hard, it is just what happens later.

[Soccer Mum]

Oh its 37 to be an older mum, Ive been hanging out here and Im 35

Anyway just wanted to say I have several friends who are 37-39ish and waited for the right guy, and have only found him recently. a couple are pregnant now, yay, and others are trying. I agree that age is just a number and so many are becoming mums in this age range now and doing a wonderful job

wish you ladies all the best

[Juju38]

Got in just before I turned 40 as a first time Mum. I love being older, wiser and just that little bit more patient.
Kids were on my 'to do list', the right timing just came later....

[minidiamond]

Kids weren't on my early 'to do' list - although I always knew if/when I met Mr Right, they'd be there quickly. Mr Right didn't come along until my late thirties but I'm bloody glad he did !!

Bloomer, do you mind if I ask, and don't want to hijack the thread, but was having DD2 at 45 ever in question when you were pregnant or in the early stages of DD1?? By that I mean, were you thinking of #2 that soon ?