[PreciousThings]

My DH, DS and I went to a BBQ for Melbourne Cup. Yesterday I found out that somebody there who we don't know very well took photos of DS and has since posted them on their Facebook page. They did all this without asking or informing us. The person has a private profile, so only their friends can view their photos (I think, I'm new to the whole Facebook thing) but I'm not sure that's acceptable to me. We're in the process of finding out how to contact this person so we can ask them to take the photos down.

Am I overreacting in feeling slightly violated? I know it's probably not a big deal but I've purposefully not put photos of DS on the internet because I'm just not comfortable with it.

Do you think it's rude to post pics of someone elses child on the net without their permission? What would you think/do if you found out someone had posted photos of your child?

[Guest_FancyPants_*]

Do you think it's rude to post pics of someone elses child on the net without their permission?

Absolutley! If you know the persons name, find them on facebook then send them a message. You don't have to make them one of your "friends" in order to send them a message. I'd say,
"I understand that you have photos of DS in your facebook albums. Can you kindly remove them as we do not want his face on the internet." If they persist then let it rip! Check up on them as well.

I've actually been wondering what I'd do if someone did the same to me. It's weird that people you don't even know have done this , let a lone a friend or family. I wouldn't even allow family to put pics of DS up.

[Guest_liquifiedstars_*]

No you're not being rude, you're quite right...I wouldn't be comfortable with it either. I have a couple of photo's on facebook with my kids in them but as you mentioned, they are only for friends to see...however, if anyone else put up a heap of pics of my kids, even if it was only for friends, I wouldn't like it, it seems a bit odd to me.

I would ask the person to remove the photo's and I wouldn't feel bad asking either.

This post has been edited by liquifiedstars: 13/11/2007, 01:34 PM

[*tooty*]

Not rude at all! You are completely entitled to your privacy.

[fuzzypeach]

They might be a bit too innocent to the dangers of the Internet. Contact them and ask them to take it down saying why. If they refuse to take it down I would take it further with facebook.

There is no way I would ever take a photo of some one's child and post the photo on the Internet. Not even friends child, nieces or nephews. That is unacceptable, especially considering that they didn't even ask first.

[LK1]

No, not on.
I recently found a picture in Flickr of a child I vaguely know, but didn't think the photographer did, so I contacted the parent, and asked, "Hey did you know about this?"
She was fine with it, but it is always good to check.

[suzo]

I want to no why this pic was there in the first place. Is it just a photo of your son on his own(sus), or is it a group photo that just happens to have your child in it. If thats the case I wouldnt have such a prob with. But if my child was the main focus Id be questioning the reason behind it.

[*Hayley]

I want to no why this pic was there in the first place. Is it just a photo of your son on his own(sus), or is it a group photo that just happens to have your child in it. If thats the case I wouldnt have such a prob with. But if my child was the main focus Id be questioning the reason behind it.

I agree with the above

In having said that i know it wouldnt bother me personally but there is a photo of my DS and 2 classmates from kinder I would love to put on my facebook page but havent as i am aware not everyone feels the same way I do in regards to that and wouldnt want to upset anyone by doing that.

[Cath-In-SA]

My SIL has put a picture of my kids on her MySpace and, yes, it annoys me. I also think it is rude to do it without asking.

I felt like you did, a bit violated and a lot ticked off. Then I had a think about it...There are no names used, and it is only one photo. The other thing is she in working in Cambodia and a little hard to get hold of atm. I will let it slide for now but if another one appears I will probably say something.

I'd go with what FancyPants said: Start of with a gentle email and go from there.

[michls]

I agree that it is really wrong, I know facebook and when you upload pics it states 'Do you have permission to use this picture" and the answer is clearly no.

I would be really ...
I guess I presumed that your DS is not in the pic alone (Seeing as they hardly know him) and it makes me feel uncomfortable regardless. I would contact the person who told you about the pic and ask them to let the person know you might not like it, or as suggested if you can get on facebook, add this person as a friend and then send them a message.

Oh yeah also this "Only their friends can see it" is pretty naieve! The use of the word Friend on these things is used loosely, I have people linked as friends that I have NEVER met, have chatted to online but they could be pedofiles or anything! So remember your friends are your friends, the people online are just that!

Sorry about the spelling, I am to tired to fix!