[Bigwoo]

hi all.

It's been a long time between posts as I have felt at a loss for words when we are all having such a sh*tey time, but I have been . I think I, too, need some time to get some perspective on this whole thing.

felix - what a shock. you guys are so brave but that is truly devastating news. I know though that you guys will pick up and make the most of life without kiddies if you choose to. Best of luck and thanks for being on the journey with us.

Mish - we will probs end up going through ivf the same time, so I might lean on you when the time comes.

emso - you guys seems like you've turned a corner and are ready to positively embrace what comes. good on you.

satay - i reckon we all put on a brave face 99% of the time, so what does it matter if you see your sil in hospital or 2 days later when she's home? Phone it in! It really shouldnt be a big deal and when the time comes I'm sure it won't be - she'll be busy anyway.

welcome newbs. to all.

afm, we had an fs appt with new doc yesterday and booked in for nurses interview in early April (us public patients have to wait). So we will have our egg pickup and drop in May. This doc said I should have had a lap at the same time as the hysteroscopy but now it's less invasive to do IVF rounds first. Also had mum and stepdad around for dinner last night and mum and I ended up in our biggest fight in a long time. She was being her usual negative/fear-mongering self and I just lost it. Long story short, she stormed out and who knows when we'll speak again. To be honest, if all I get is negativity, I don't mind if I don't see her for a while. Though it's hard to work when I'm stewing over it. ugh. Honestly, who invented families?

[Satay chicken]

Hi beautiful girls -

Agh, this AF really has got to me - my disappointment is really overwhelming and I think high hopes for the acu / tcm have done it. I spose I will be ok in a couple of days.

I've been looking into my dates for IVF and trying to get an idea of where I will be cycle wise, we go away in June and it looks like I will be getting AF around the time we get back so would start my first cycle at the end of July - thats fine but EP would be right in the busiest part of my year work wise.. I cannot keep delaying this so am going to go for it anyway - screw the job, they will have to do it without me.

Also, thank you so much for the kind words about the hospital visit - I actually ended up emailing my brother and he was lovely, totally understands and said he will be happy to see us at home when we are ready - he's a good man. At least now I have spoken to him I can tell my mum to back off if she brings it up again.

Work sucks like nothing else and just wish I could bloody get pregnant and get out of here....

Bigwoo - I'm so pleased you have got the ball rolling and you are on your way to getting starting. I'm so ready myself now.

Emso - It totally sucks hey! FB is the enemy. Just try and be easy on yourself atm ok, you have alot going on. I know its hard but just try and focus on you and DH and your situation - nothing else matters right now...

Scruff - How you going matey?? Where are you at in your cycle??? As for animals - my kitty cat is my absolute lifesaver, he's always there and makes me laugh, gives me a cuttle and is so totally cute. I don't know how I would be coping without him. Agree, anyone thinking of an animal - go for it...

Zoe - Thinking of you tomorrow when you get your immune results, please let me know how you go ok....

Sarah, Leebs, Mich, Scoki, Mia, eyes and always Fe... hope you are well....xx

Also, I am sure you girls will not mind but our special ex Endurance Team member Ards had her little boy last week.... so proud of your Ards, you went through so much to get to now - Congratulations....xx

[wannabe_mum]

Hi ladies,
I have just joined this group on the advice in a book and a colleague. Both suggested it might help to talk to others who are in the same situation as me. I don't really understand all the acronyms used on here though, hope I will learn them all!
I am 26, my husband is 38. We have been trying for 15 months officially but only ever used my cycle as contraception before. Naturally like everyone else I never thought I'd have trouble conceiving. I always knew I wanted to be a mum, and have dreamed about it for years, only putting it on hold until after our wedding. All our preliminary tests came back normal. Which makes it frustrating because there's is no simple fix. I have been given a script for clomid, but i'm reluctant to take it cos I'm scared of side effects, and I don't know how it can help if I'm already ovulating. Has anybody else tried it? The next step is a hysteroscopy which scares me too.
Every month I get a negative test is a disappointment. None of my friends are trying for kids, those that have kids got pregnant really easily, so I have no one to talk to who truly understands. I try to stay positive but it's really hard sometimes. I am young, fit and healthy and I keep thinking 'why me?' I did go through a period of time when looking at a pregnant woman or baby made me want to scream and cry. I am a nurse, and I see people every day who treat their kids badly and yet I want a baby more than anything and don't have one.
My husband is very supportive thankfully, but I don't think a man ever really gets it. Thants why I decided to try joining this group.
Sorry to ramble on in my first post

[Kate128]

Hi girls

Satay - so glad your brother is lovely and understanding. I really hope that helps when the time comes to see them. Sorry that you're having a tough time at the moment. Yes it does my head in when you have to look ahead and 'guess' when cycles etc will be. I think just do it, and things like work can cope when you get there. Thanks for sharing the news about Ards, that is really exciting to hear and gives us all a reason to keep going too I suppose!!

Scruff - it's me who wants a dog!! But we need to get a fence first...I rang a surveyor last week and it will cost $1700 to get the property surveyed BEFORE we even put in a fence. Normally that'd be okay but DH is changing jobs in June and will be without pay for about 2 months so we are having to be super careful so we can keep up mortgage payments and bills in that time. I'd rather try another FET with that money ..... so I guess I just have to wait. Seriously considering lizards/rats/birds though!!!.....actually I might even descend to digging out childhood bears. I just need something to hold close when I feel really down. Anyway. Nuff bout me. YAY for AF staying away so far....FX for you dear...this might be the one. Good luck for your BT tomorrow.

Bigwoo - nice to see you again! Congrats for getting a cycle booked in for May! It must feel good to get the ball rolling. I'm sorry you had a fight with your mum though. It never feels good does it. Hopefully you get it sorted and all okay again soon.

Emso - I'm so sorry that you have to deal with the FB friends. I know, it really does your head in when friends get pregnant and they didn't mean to/they didn't especially want to/they drink/smoke/do drugs etc etc - and here we are slaving away at trying and trying, eating all the right foods/vitamins etc, and spending so much on what they get for free. It's okay to be angry and sad....for a while....but yes, somehow you have to pick yourself up so that we don't end up bitter and twisted. I realised that after the last friend announced her news recently....I had to decide to let it go, and concentrate on me instead of the unfairness of it. It's so good that we can come on here and rant and get these emotions out. For what it's worth, I unsubscribe from anyone who posts baby photos/news etc now on FB. Just to preserve my sanity.

I'm glad that your DH's testicles are healing nicely and I can understand he doesn't want sharp objects near them again!!!! What troopers you both are. At my clinic, there is a 'friends' group that meet every now and then for coffee - it's been a lifesaver - and it seems to be incredibly common that people use donor eggs and sperm. I hope that this path for you is an easier road than the one you've been on already. You both deserve some gentle treatment now I think!! Take care of yourselves. xx

Mish, that's awesome news that you can move forward! So excited for you. Good luck with police checks. SO glad we don't have them up here. It sounds like a complete drag. Hope you can get it organised nice and quickly x

Hi Wannabe, welcome to our group! Sorry I can't offer any advice about Clomid but there are others here who have used it, and I think there's even a Clomid chat group. Did your FS explain why he gave it to you? If you don't understand why you're using it, I'd ask them next time. Sometimes it takes a few months to get the ball rolling after you start seeing a FS, as (well in my experience) they start with mild treatment/monitoring, then gradually work their way up the scale of attack I think! I hope you can work out a way to manage having friends who have kids... that must be really tough. Noone really understands our position unless they've been there, and you're right, I don't think many guys really get it either. Hang in there, let us know how you go this cycle.

Hi everyone, Eyes, Leebs, Zoe, Daisy, oh dear I think I've missed a lot of people.

No news from me - have a FS appointment this Friday to get the test results from my 9 vials of blood.

[AmberSpark]

Scruff - thinking of you in this 2WW, I can't imagine what it feels like but I have everything crossed for you.... xoxoxox

Emso - I am beginning to hate Facebook, between the fights that it has caused and baby announcements, I try not to log on too much.

Bigwoo - no problems at all, its all abit daunting and the more I read the more I get freaked out. LOL and as for families.....so are good and some are down right annoying and I get what you are saying. I had a big fight with my mum over the whole IVF, she has since come around and bought me a Miracle Angel brooch for me to put on my bag. Its a start.... Big hugs to you though, times like this can be stressful.

Satay - that is so nice of your brother, see people understand.....and thanks for the Ards update that is so great to hear. Might shoot her a message. Thanks

Welcome Wannabe Mum ..... hope this group is what you need to off load.

Sarah - I hate the police checks I think it is crap.....but have to be done. Have a great day.


Hello to everyone else, Sorry in a rush, have to take my mum to a doctors appointment and didn't realise the time. xoxox speak later.

Scruff - thinking of you in this 2WW, I can't imagine what it feels like but I have everything crossed for you.... xoxoxox

Emso - I am beginning to hate Facebook, between the fights that it has caused and baby announcements, I try not to log on too much.

Bigwoo - no problems at all, its all abit daunting and the more I read the more I get freaked out. LOL and as for families.....so are good and some are down right annoying and I get what you are saying. I had a big fight with my mum over the whole IVF, she has since come around and bought me a Miracle Angel brooch for me to put on my bag. Its a start.... Big hugs to you though, times like this can be stressful.

Satay - that is so nice of your brother, see people understand.....and thanks for the Ards update that is so great to hear. Might shoot her a message. Thanks

Welcome Wannabe Mum ..... hope this group is what you need to off load.

Sarah - I hate the police checks I think it is crap.....but have to be done. Have a great day.


Hello to everyone else, Sorry in a rush, have to take my mum to a doctors appointment and didn't realise the time. xoxox speak later.

[Daisy1974]

Today would have been our Baby Number 3's due date!! Trying to keep busy at work but when I stop and think about it I start to cry!

Sorry for the me post - just needed to tell someone apart from DP about this day....

xx

This post has been edited by Daisy1974: 29/02/2012, 01:19 PM

[Kate128]

I'm sorry Daisy. It's okay to cry.

[AnnaBee87]

Hi everyone!

Today AF came to ruin my day in spectacular force, and this brings DP and I into our 13th month of TTC. So I decided it was about time I came to join you here.

Some of you may know me from TTC #1 thread, but I will give you a little run-down on me and my history.

My name is Anna, DP and I have been trying for our first little one for just over a year with no luck whatsoever. DP has a 5yr old son with his ex-wife and they had no trouble getting pg so obviously we assumed we wouldn't either. WRONG!
I am a fairly healthy 24yr old, I am only slightly overweight, I don't smoke, I am not a heavy drinker, I have cut back on caffeine and am trying to eat healthily to lose a few kilos, yet still I can't seem to fall pregnant.
I play sport and keep active, and I ovulate pretty regularly every month.

My doctor can't find anything wrong with me, except maybe that I should lose a couple of kilos to see if it helps (I am only 85kg, 175cm tall) and has advised me that I should only bother seeing a specialist if I am not pregnant by this June. Oh, also, my best friend recently told me she is pregnant.

And so, here I am Still trying, still trying to soldier on.

I hope you can accept me into this group I will try not to vent too much!

[Satay chicken]

I hope you can accept me into this group I will try not to vent too much!

Hey AnnaBee - I certainly remember you, I used to be Fionacats! Of course you are welcome to join us here - and please vent as much as you need to. You will find us a bit more sensitive (and understanding I suppose) than some of the other groups who have not been TTC so long. We are all in different places of course but all share a common understanding of how hard this really is..xx

Daisy - I hope you are ok this evening... a tough day. xx

Mich and Kate - Its a relief to get off my shoulders hey... he is good... Actually he said something funny of FB today - Can't wait for my month off work! He has no idea what he is in for...

Wannabe - Welcome to the group... Clomid is not so bad hey and it can do the trick.. I used it for three months, I found it best to take after dinner that way you limit the side effects, it can upset you a bit emotionally but only the days you are taking it, I just got a bit teary now and then. That said, if you feel uncomfortable have a couple of Panadol, i found that helped alot..

Anyway - just burning time this evening and watching Dance Moms on Lifestyle 2 - Vegas.........

[AnnaBee87]

Hey AnnaBee - I certainly remember you, I used to be Fionacats! Of course you are welcome to join us here - and please vent as much as you need to. You will find us a bit more sensitive (and understanding I suppose) than some of the other groups who have not been TTC so long. We are all in different places of course but all share a common understanding of how hard this really is..xx

Thanks Satay chicken I was getting a little overwhelmed with all the new girls coming in and getting a positive test only 2mths in. I am happy for them but so sad for myself at the same time. I think it was making me more negative about my own situation instead of making me want to try harder.

..::Sending everyone baby dust::..