[Happypinks]

We have 2 girls and a boy due in weeks.
My heart said have 3 my head said don't.

This is me completely pp. But i wonder if me being me I will always feel clucky or is it that Im truly clucky.

[lsolaBella]

Is the middle child 'syndrome' real or not? That is almost one of my main reasons for not wanting to have a third. My two get along beautifully and always has. I'm worried a third will throw it all 'out'? Will one not be left out? Is it then better to have 4. Now I'm rambling...

As a middle child I can say it is as real as star signs

Also MCS applies to any child who is not only, first or last. So if you have four kids, you get two with MCS.

[littlepickle]

I always wanted three (before I had any ). My Dh loves his kids to bits and is really hands on but is the kind of person who would have felt fully complete with no kids or one child. After the first baby we successfuly used Natural Family Planning until we ( I mean me ) were ready for a second. After the second we decided to use the Mirena so that if we planned a third it would require me going to the doctor to have it removed. I have no doubt that if we hadnt done this we would have 'accidently' had a third. Over time I really came to enjoy just having the two. A third would have really impacted on our relationship both then and now.
And at 8 and 10 there is no way I would go back for more even if he turned around one day and said 'lets have another'.

good luck
littlepickle

[elle-M]

I'm one of three girls and my sisters and I get along insanely well, we're best friends. Sure there were fights and ganging up on one, but that's normal for kids - teaches a bit of resilience I think!

We are due with #3 soon and I'm not sure if that will be it or if we'll have one more. Like a pp my heart says I'd love four children but my head says "three's enough". I'm just not sure I have the energy to extend the child bearing years (and sleepless nights) further.

Going from 2 to 3 for us was never a decision, it was always the plan! I just adore the idea of a big family. I'd rather have 5 or 6 than one or two

[Dinosaurus]

I have a 3 yo and 18mo so Im not totally out of the woods yet.

But ultimately my decision was made by how sick I get of the constant attention grabbing neediness and the desire I feel for some space. At the end of a long day alone with them I am so ready for DH to come home and give me just 10 minutes peace - I figure that's not a good sign I'm ready for three!!

I have also sold or given away almost all the baby stuff and I'm not sorry it's gone - in fact I'm counting down to when school starts - that's bad right?

Also we have family interstate and o/s only - so a lot of traveling, we will be a lot more comfortable both financially and travel-wise as a foursome.

And we are old (38 and 46).

[Akeyo]

Someone once said to me that the main reason people end up having three is to stop the endless circular 'will we won't we' discussions! It certainly was a bit like that for us. I am one of three and although my relationship with my older sister is currently not great, I have an amazing connection with my younger sister. In fact I can't bear to think of how lonely it would feel in my family if my parents hadn't had a third.

We have 2 boys aged 4 and 2, and I am 31 weeks with #3. We had vacillated wildly ever since DS2 was born. In my heart I really wanted a third but was not sure how I would cope, I had found the leap from 1 to 2 quite hard. DH had never pictured having 3 but once that seed of an idea was planted...

In the end, about halfway through last year we decided that we would 'open the window' of conception for a few months and see what happened. I was going to turn 40 at the end of the year so it was then or never. But I did not want to get anxious about trying and trying. I figured if it was meant to be, it would happen and if not, then we would happily move on knowing that we at least tried. Luckily for us it did happen, and quickly too before we could change our minds! Now as I am heading into the home stretch the excitement is growing. We don't have everything fully worked out yet, still yet to upgrade our car to fit 3 and financially this puts us back a bit but all that stuff is just details. As others have said, it is such an instinctive choice in the end. We feel very blessed