[salster]

Just a simple question Can u Have more than one best friend? I have had a best friend for 29 years I have only ever called her my Best mate and i thought the same but now she has meet another friend and is suddenly classing her as one of her best mates. Would u get upset or it wouldn't bother you.?

It sounds so highschool I know, what you all think ???

This post has been edited by salster: 20/02/2012, 05:00 AM

[Dinosaurus]

Well, to bring it down a notch from high school, my 2 year old watched Humf deal with this very issue last week. Humf felt like you do but his friends told him he was silly and they could all be best friends.

So long as your friendship is intact I would think it was nice she has found someone else to adore, but friendships are often more volatile than other relationships because the jealousy and possessiveness is kept underground even though it still exists.

If it were me I'd be fine, have no issue at all with my friends having friends. Sorry, I can see you're hurt but unless there's more to it, I think you need to accept it and move on.

[Wigglemama]

Yes you can have more than one best friend, I actually don't think there is a golden rule.It wouldn't bother me. I have three friends I consider besties. Maybe you are feeling a little jealous and hurt? I think you know that this is a situation where you will just have to put on your big girl panties and get over it.

[Jip]

I don't have any best friends. Probably says something about me though!

[salster]

I knew it was going to sound so stupid. I am not jealous .

This post has been edited by salster: 20/02/2012, 06:03 AM

[amaza]

I have 2 best friends. One has been a friend since high school. She is adorable and I love her so much. I was in her wedding and I have every intention of having her in mine if I ever have one. She lives in another state and isn't there with me for day to day things. She has had 2 babies since being over there and I haven't met them. I miss her like crazy though and can not wait to see her and her family again. She will always be my best friend. We just don't fight.

Then I have a friend who is here day to day with me. We get along so well, talk about anything and I love her too. I have only been friends with her for 18 months but she is gorgeous and I class her as my best friend.

So yes, 2 best friends.

[soontobegran]

Don't feel silly, your feelings are real and I can understand what you are saying to some extent
I think singular friendships, the sort where you pinky swear your alliance ignoring all others are the sort of friendships kids have.
I have 5 friends who I consider best friends because they are the 'best' of friends. We are there for each other through thick and thin but each of these women also have a small group of other BFF's too.
It is possible to share friends, have confidence that you bring something unique to the table that the other friend doesn't.
Just remember that to have a good friend you must be one...be careful not to make your friend feel guilty and it will remind her of why you have been her friend for 29 years.
Take care

[Guest_CaptainOblivious_*]

Sure... I have a few of them. 1 of them was my best mate from kindergarten upwards, another was my high school bestie and then I have 2 really good friends where we live.

The two old friends, we barely catch up now because of distance and kids and stuff, but the affection is still there on both sides.

[tick]

Sure you can. Best kind of implies that there'll only be one, but in the real world if doesn't have to mean that at all.

[ali27]

Of course you can have more than one " best" friend. Time and circumstances mean that people need more than one confidente. It doesn't mean that your friendship is devalued.If you still feel like you can take up where you left off that's all that matters.